I am not sure where to begin. I have posted messages on here before about my ex and my new partner and son having a lot of difficulties which also included me. Well I put in that post that my ex husband seems to have a way of getting my son to do exactly what he wants as in causing trouble between my new partner and i. My ex seems to be able to brainwash my son and it has now got to a stage where my son is violent and destructive towards myself, my new partner and within the home. A few weeks ago I had to call the police out to my son because he was wrecking the house and threatening me with a knife. My son is 13 yrs old; the police took him away and locked him in the cells for 2 hours. The desk sergeant couldn’t believe his eyes and said my son was one of the most arrogant kids he had ever seen and had no remorse for what he had done.
I have always tried to give my ex access and have never stopped him seeing our son. The problem I have now is my son as a social worker and I have been informed by his social worker that I should stop all access immediately as my ex’s influence over our son is affecting his behaviour in a major way. My ex is also a very violent person and hits first and asks questions later. The social worker said that unless I stop all contact they cannot help him with his problems, because all the good work they do his father will undo.
My son loves his dad well I think he does, I know I have to stop the access but can anyone tell me what my rights are? I have heard about parental responsibility and I believe my ex and I both have it, as we got married after my son was born and my ex’s name is on the birth certificate. I look after our son all week and he has him for a few hours on a Saturday. I believe I am his legal guardian by what my divorce papers say but I am not sure. My ex has not paid any maintenance towards our son for the past two and half years. I know if I stop his access he will start threatening me and coming round causing trouble, my new partner works away all week in London and is worried sick about what might happen. I do believe I would be in great danger. The other thing is my ex would not think twice about taking our son when he comes out of school or even while he is out playing.
Can someone please tell me what rights I have and what I can do to protect us from what might happen? I’m desperate
2006-07-27
22:47:24
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