When a person cheats, is it a conscience decision on makes or is it an accident. I mean did you choose to cheat or did that person's lips "really" accidentally fall on to yours and you couldn't do anything to get out of it and had to sleep with that person?
Basically, when you cheat on someone is it something that you make a decision of or not?
2006-07-27 22:48:28 · 20 answers · asked by Strawberry 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Could be that it wasn't a conscience decision, but I would think that in most cases it most certainly is. For whatever reason you want more, men want to conquer women, another notch in their belt, or to get an ego boost. Women want someone to want them and to be desired. Then they take steps to fill these needs, or wants. There is no universal reason though people are different and the reasons for cheating will vary as much as people do.
2006-07-27 22:54:51 · answer #1 · answered by Jim C 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Oh you definitely make that decision. The decision is whether or not to end up in a situation where you will be tempted or have the opportunity to cheat. Once you are in the situation I believe it is nearly impossible not to cheat. Or put more accurately, you have already decided at some level that you will cheat by the simple act of putting yourself in that situation. You would not go for a walk or have a long, private discussion off to the corner of the bar if you are not on some level thinking of or willing to cheat.
I have never cheated on a GF and I believe it is avoidable by not sending signals that say you are interested. Women don't just come up to you and demand your flirty attention. They look for a sign of interest, correct?
The answer in my opinion is no. It is not an accident unless you are too stupid to recognize a situation where you would be tempted to do so. For some really hot retarded guy, it may just be accidental. But I am neither hot nor retarded. I have no problems there!
2006-07-27 23:02:59 · answer #2 · answered by Sir Sandwich Slayer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question is not clear! Anyway, nobody can cheat unconsciously. It could have been planned and decided or it could have happened at the spur of the moment. But it definitely hurts our conscience. But it is not true that once you cheat you will always cheat. If you have strong will power and can learn to overcome your temptations, you cannot cheat.
2006-07-27 23:01:15 · answer #3 · answered by yuvan53 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's a concious decision. We aren't animals merely acting on instinct. We are human, with a concience, with brains, with the knowledge between good and right. You KNOW it's wrong to cheat, so if you do you've only gone looking for it or you didn't do what was necessary to avoid it.
2006-07-27 22:51:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was caught up in the moment and it happen so fast. Sure I could have stopped it but I didn't. Me and my wife where having problems at the time. I wished I never done it. I did confess to her later what had happen. The bible says that there always a way out of temptation, that is true, Just using the way out is the thing to do.
2006-07-27 22:53:42 · answer #5 · answered by Josh S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not like in the movies.....there 's a lot more to it, but my guess would be: it is a decision. (based on hate, anger, etc towards your spouse )
a definite misleading decision which one would regret for the rest of your life. Life is all about choices. You make the wrong ones, you regret it always.
2006-07-27 22:52:14 · answer #6 · answered by destiny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know exactly what you're doing when you cheat, it is NEVER a mistake even when you're drunk. It just sounds better to make excuses than to confess fully. There is no reason good enough for someone to cheat
2006-07-27 22:54:27 · answer #7 · answered by yarisgp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course someone makes a decision to do it. There is too much planning and scheming involved in adultery for it to "just happen."
2006-07-27 22:53:12 · answer #8 · answered by Ellen J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My bf cheated on me, and even though he says he doesn't know how it happened it was definitely a conscious decision he made...so yo answer your question...yes it is a conscious decision.
2006-07-28 00:00:10 · answer #9 · answered by gummibearz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what ever the reason is you don't win its always there in the back of your mine.its something you don't want to remember if it brakes a family up. and there are lots of reasons to cheat but it not right. Get out of the relation ship first.
2006-07-27 22:58:46 · answer #10 · answered by gbinnicker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋