When I talk to people, I have problems maintaining eye-contact... It's not that I'm being shifty or untruthful, it's more that... I sort of... I'm wondering if they are thinking I'm weird for holding their gaze, or if I look uncomfortable or if I'm drawing attention to myself or whatever. So my eyes dart around, and I'm sure I look shifty eyed...
My Irish form tutor said that where he was from it was impolite to hold eye contact, so he looked at people's mouths instead - with him you can't tell at all, so I tried that... possibly with the result of my female french teacher thinking I have a crush on her... Not Good...
It's really a problem, I think, of worrying how I come across to people - I don't want to have an antagonistic stare! Or for everyone to think I fancy them coz I hold eye contact for too long...
The whole thing just makes me uncomfortable, does anyone have any ideas to help?
Thanks...
2007-04-10
01:22:04
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Lucy
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