My husband and I have been married for over a year now and he STILL has not told his ex-wife and kids about our marriage (kids are 13, 10, & 4 approx). In fact, his kids don't even know that he and his ex are divorced and it has been FOUR YEARS. They live overseas so he doesn't see them that much anyway and I guess it's easy to lie to them. I go crazy anytime that the thought of this crosses my mind and our home becomes a battlefield where I am always the insensitive, pushy one. I was not raised to lie to people, even if the lying is to "protect" someone. I hear excuse after lame excuse and I have to be silent when he talks on the phone to them and I have to deal with it [alone] when he takes "the family" to Chuck E. Cheese's when they visit. I never hid him from my family, my ex, my friends, or my four-year-old daughter. I bit the bullet although it was difficult to tell my ex-husband who still loves me, difficult to tell my parents that I was marrying again, and difficult to explain what a step-dad is. He has said that he will end the marriage before he would tell them. Should I leave? What can be done and what would you do?
2006-08-17
19:35:15
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haneen25
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Marriage & Divorce