I’m currently deployed over seas with the Military and my boyfriend of 3 years all of a sudden wants a separation! He says I’m not the same person since I left, I can’t see how I’ve change as a person. He also thinks I’m cheating on him! Don’t know why cuz I’m not. Now he won’t tell me what’s going on! I’m deployed for 3 more weeks and he won’t tell me if he’s breaking up with me or we are working it out. I live with this man to top it off! What do you in this situation?
2006-08-17 19:54:42 · 13 answers · asked by Madi120805 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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Military relationships are hard to do especially if you are a woman, I am so sorry that this has happened to you. What I can suggest is that you make darn sure he knows that you do care and try you hardest to not give him reason to doubt you. Send him text messages, e-mails, letters, anything really. Ask him when you get back can you two go and talk things over and ask him why he has these doubts after so long
2006-08-17 20:01:58 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as tho you under a lot of emotional pressure right now. B/ f wants a separation, maybe there are changes but my bet is that you all have changed as is normal process in a the relationship. It could be his ticket out of the relationship to say that you have changed and also by saying you are cheating is minimising any guilt he may have re leaving the relationship. Time out may be the answer to allow you all to sort yourselves out. Arrange the best you can your living arrangements for when you get back. It is not a nice thing to come home to so try and keep yourself busy and catch up with friends and family. The sad part of this whatever the reason it really does sound as tho your man wants out and sadly you cannot make him stay. The military provide professional counselling tap into this to help overcome your relationship issues and your recent experiences.
2006-08-17 20:03:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not much you can do if you are still away from home. if he won't speak to you or make a decision then make it for him. you can't solve if you don't talk. tell him that as talented as you may seem, you cannot read minds. it time for him to make his mind up and be a man and explain himself. put your foot down and demand. difficult if you live with him, but since i don't know whether the place is in your name ect then not much i can say on that front.
tell him the things i've mentioned and see how he responds and take it from there. good luck and don't let it destract you too much.
2006-08-17 20:02:49 · answer #3 · answered by jay j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sticky situation. i think if he all of the sudden thinks that you are cheating then you need to analyze your relationship with him. you need to know that he can trust you. if he cant then i would maybe think twice about being with him. there are two possibilities, A he is cheating and so he has to blame it on you or B he is a very jelous person and needs some help. follow your heart.
2006-08-17 20:01:55 · answer #4 · answered by carleyrae83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems to me that he has already moved on. He knows when you are coming home and he seems to be looking for an excuse to continue the relationship he already has going on with someone else. Just my opinion of course, I could be wrong.
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2006-08-17 20:03:27 · answer #5 · answered by AK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truefully, I know alot of people who have had relationship problems because of deployment, alot of the men and also women in the military do change, don't let the change affect you and your boyfriend! It is as hard on him as it is on you!
2006-08-17 20:00:03 · answer #6 · answered by Jamie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the army you 'll find more men that you can imagine. Leave him
2006-08-17 20:02:43 · answer #7 · answered by giannismitsios 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he wants to cut you loose there isnt much you can do to stop him, but if he wants to be a jerk, so be it, when you get back stateside, get your belongings out and start fresh....im sure there is a guy that would love to have you in his life....and BTW....THANKS for serving your country!!!!
2006-08-17 20:01:12 · answer #8 · answered by do_sctc145 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just wait till u get back. when u look into his eyes u understand everything. there is no point to deside it while u re away. (u re away, did i understand it correct?)
2006-08-17 19:59:17 · answer #9 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him, because he is probably already with someone else.
2006-08-17 20:01:27 · answer #10 · answered by civicsea25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋