Hi, I ve been with this gril for 4 years 2 years ago we broke up and I left my country to go get a master degre in France. A few month later we got back together. Now I got my degree and I have great job offers, ones I can't have in my country... and she s asking me to come back and I feel I can't go back to the life I had before... She asks me to promiss her at least if she comes to live in France we ll both go back to Egypt in 5 years?? But how can I make a promiss like this?? Now we r breaking up bcuz of all this what should I do?
2006-08-17 19:34:22 · 5 answers · asked by Nom@d 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There are definitely conditions that she has put on the table that you are not sure about accepting. It sounds like she's willing to compromise but only to a point. You want to follow the path of your career. First of all, I do not believe that anyone should give an ultimatum that places pressure on another individual. This is a form of manipulation. Secondly, if you have any doubts, it is best not to put all your cards on the table. Thirdly, when two people have different goals and agenda, they tend to grow apart. Fourthly, it sounds like you are very happy with your own accomplishments and do not wish to relive your old life in which she is a part of. You then must ask yourself what your priorities are: relationship or career? Keep in mind that people can have both unless there are conflicting interest such as in your case. Finally, I strongly feel that if someone cares enough about you, she or he should support his/her partner.
No one can make the decision for you because no one knows your relationship and her better than you. Recall the movie "Family Man" with Nicholas Cage. His character chose his career over his girlfriend but in the end found out she was more important than his career. He only realize this because his girlfriend was the right person for him. You must ask yourself if your girlfriend is the right person for you. If so, would you risk everything to be with her? If your honest answer is no then you may want to reevaluate.
2006-08-17 19:54:52 · answer #1 · answered by Ana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what's best for you and your future. Two people wanting two different things does not make of a good relationship, therefore what kind of future will you have? You also can't make a promise you may not be able to keep, if you broke it she may resent you. OR she may decide she doesn't want to leave in 5 years...you never know...I'd suggest going with what your heart tells you to do.
2006-08-18 02:41:38 · answer #2 · answered by Lonesome Dove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of yous can't agree with this important decision so it is time to move on with your lives.You follow your career/dreams and maybe she can find someone who will follow hers with her.
2006-08-18 02:40:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go live in france amongst the other traitors
2006-08-18 02:40:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you cannot make compromises...then go with your heart's desire..if she trully loves you, she will understand...Goodluck
2006-08-18 02:40:25 · answer #5 · answered by chona a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋