Please this is tearing me up inside,
I need advise & I know what I'm about
to say might be long & might even
offend some people but please I'm so
confused & hurt & I just need some
guidance on what to do.
I am currently in a long term relationship
with my BF. We've been together for 6 years
now. We've had our share of arguments but
we have always worked things out somehow &
have always kept the line of communication
open. I thought he was THE ONE, until certant
things happened & I began to realize over time
that a TRUE LOVE wouldn't do such things to me.
I thought about breaking up back then, but then
he got better. Now the only problem I have is
he thinks I'm too clingy. I had all this love
for him but he doesn't want me to bother him
with too much affection. My other problem is he
doesn't show enough affections to me. Now I'm
beginning to loose those feelings for him, since
I'm not able to express myself to him like how
I'd like to, & I feel he isn't expressing enough
to me. Sometimes, I feel like the reason he
doesn't want me to be like that is because he
wants sex instead. We've been together for 6
years & I have yet to have sex with him. We have
fooled around though.
My other problem is recently I met this guy who is
also in a relationship, & I have really strong
feelings for him. I don't know him completely yet
but all my senses are saying he is THE ONE. I don't
want to ruin anyone's life nor do I want to hurt
anyone. So I have kept it to myself. I have not
told this guy how I felt, because of my delemas
& how complicated it would be to tell such a guy
in his position. (keeping out details due to
length of this question, but it is a very
complicated thing if I was to consider ever
telling this guy)
Because of this I am really considering breaking
up with my BF. I can't stand feeling like this &
I feel like my heart is cheating. The best thing
would be to let my BF go & for him to find someone
better for him. However, we have built so much
together, & I worry about everything that we have
made together will fall apart. I would like to stay
friends & stay co-workers / co-owners of our business
together, but the more I think about it the more I
know he'll be too emotionally hurt to separate the
relationship from other things in our life. Don't
get me wrong, I am not breaking up in hopes of
getting the other guy. I just think it's not fair to
my BF if my feelings are fading for him, & I'm
starting to have feelings for someone else.
For the sake of "What if's" I will say if there was
ever a moment where the truth could come out about
my feelings for this guy, I would like to tell him
but I would not want him to cheat nor would I cheat,
but I would like him to consider, if a relationship
between us is at all possible.
I'm afraid telling this guy about my feelings will
hurt any possibility of a friendship, which is sad
because he's really cool.
Actually this could have been longer because it's
a bit more complicated then this, but this is me
trying to sum everything up.
So I guess what I'm asking is:
1) How do I tell my BF about what I'm feeling?
2) Should I breakup with my BF?
3) Should I tell the guy how I feel about him?
For more information if you want to help me you are
more then welcome to email me. Please, I really need
help.
2007-03-26
17:14:48
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11 answers
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Anonymous0ne
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