My husband is from a communist country (escaped) and anytime someone gets sick (e.g.family member) he expresses disapproval. He says things like "you must do more vigorous exercise. I'm worse than you and look I'm working. He has admitted that he does not tolerate weakness and is a man who goes to work "even if he is dying!" What is it about a person that causes them to have this attitude?
I long for some tenderness and understanding. Is it too much to ask for some sympathy and consideration from the person you live with? e.g. an offer to help you, cook you some food or just ask you are you feeling better?
I often "minister" to people who are in some sort of need but he does not see that they actually have any need and should be doing "this or that"! He seems to think people are lazy and basically need to help themselves.
Generally, he is quite critical and is obsessed with gets angry about the lifestyle and beliefs of certain people groups, also e.g.people who smoke.
2007-08-09
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