i'm 21 and my bf is 22 (he's 9 months older). we've been together for about 4 months and we've discussed marriage because i'm a religious christian and i want a real relationship that'd end in that. he's agnostic but he's willing to convert. but the last time we talked about children, he wound up refusing and when i asked him why he said it's because he's not white (he's a brownish arab) and he doesn't want dark-skinned children in a mostly white country (we live in the us) because he doesn't want them to have the same identity crisis he had or face the same prejudice he faced. he said i have english, irish, italian, and lithuanian blood and i shouldn't water it down with his north african blood. i don't know what to do. i'd rather have my own children than adopt or be artificially inseminated, but i respect his experience and i love him very much. maybe behind closed doors i think he has a point.
2007-11-25
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