Other - Family & Relationships - 8 October 2007

me and my boyfriend hav been together for almost a year now, and basically with christmas soon coming up, i suggested to him we spend it as a couple with our families. i said to him we go see his family first then mine and then we both go back home together. but he doesn't want this he says if i loved him i'd spend it with just him, i've always spent xmas with my family as i believe family are important. he's met my family once he never makes an effort with them he just doesn't want to mix in it's like he just wants to keep me to himself. i really can't take it maybe he's not the person i thought he was. i don't know what to say to him, i love him but i don't want to have someone who don't want to make an effort with my family they have no problem with him what so ever just i think he doesn't want to get to know them. what do i do? can i overcome this with him?

2007-10-08 03:07:42 · 14 answers · asked by Amy 2

My boyf and I had a big discussion at the weekend. We have been together a year - I love him, he says he is not in love with me yet. As u can imagine I was very distressed by this. He has a few issues with the whole love things because of relationships past, and his parents' messy divorce. He says he is confident he will fall in love with me, but he doesn't feel it at the moment. I was so upset I admitted I may have to leave him because it is very painful to be with a man who doesn't love you back.
He has suddenly become the best boyf in the world - cooking an amazing dinner for me tonight, expensive wine. If he doesn't love why is he so scared of losing me? Am confused.

2007-10-08 02:59:44 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Sorry this is so long..I really need help

I'm 18 & a freshman in college. I live 30 minutes away from home & my bf. He and I have been together for a year and a half, and I'm pretty happy, but not completely. I really want him to go to college, but he dropped out of highschool (he's a grade above me) and is working a pretty decent fulltime job right now & doesnt know if college is for him. The thing is, he is my first serious boyfriend (the first guy I've had a real relationship with, I don't count boyfriends before highschool or ones shorter than 3 months). He also doesn't have a car right now, and we don't hang out a lot, like 2 times a week usually.

I just always told myself I wouldn't stay with him unless he went to college. I dont want to force him, its just a decision i made for myself. I'm scared that since hes my first real bf, theres someone else out there for me. How do I know? Should I stay with him bc Im happy even though things may not work in the future?

2007-10-08 02:46:01 · 6 answers · asked by BLAIRwaldorf 3

2007-10-08 02:26:35 · 4 answers · asked by venki 1

Allright, so long story short my best friend and my best guy friend have been dating for quite awhile. Well yesterday me and the guy friend went to a haunted house, and my best friend didn't go because she doesn't like them..but anyways, so afterwards he out of nowhere decides to stop and pick up some coke. Well the thing is, he doesn't do coke much, but it makes me mad and I know it would make her mad if she knew, and I don't know if this is the kind of situation where I keep it from her or tell her. I know if my best guy friend found out I told her he would be mad and I don't want to lose either of their friendships.

2007-10-08 02:22:23 · 4 answers · asked by Elle 1

i need a true frind i can count on and call my own for the rest of my life . one who is serious and also ready for a real relationship

2007-10-08 02:20:35 · 1 answers · asked by mee_tessy 1

2007-10-08 00:01:50 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous