Sorry this is so long..I really need help
I'm 18 & a freshman in college. I live 30 minutes away from home & my bf. He and I have been together for a year and a half, and I'm pretty happy, but not completely. I really want him to go to college, but he dropped out of highschool (he's a grade above me) and is working a pretty decent fulltime job right now & doesnt know if college is for him. The thing is, he is my first serious boyfriend (the first guy I've had a real relationship with, I don't count boyfriends before highschool or ones shorter than 3 months). He also doesn't have a car right now, and we don't hang out a lot, like 2 times a week usually.
I just always told myself I wouldn't stay with him unless he went to college. I dont want to force him, its just a decision i made for myself. I'm scared that since hes my first real bf, theres someone else out there for me. How do I know? Should I stay with him bc Im happy even though things may not work in the future?
2007-10-08 02:46:01 · 6 answers · asked by BLAIRwaldorf 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
But please keep in mind that so far, I've been at school for a little over a month and havent made any friends yet. It sucks so bad & i dont know why, but it just hasnt been good for me. I don't want to stay with my bf just because hes there for me & a good friend to hang out with. I really dont know what to do. :(
2007-10-08 02:46:50 · update #1
I will give you an excellent advice...look if you found a guy that makes you happy...trust me that you wont found anyone like him...
you think that at college there must be other guys but no...it is not so simple to reach the good guys....
I hope this helps!
2007-10-08 02:51:33 · answer #1 · answered by Aquamarine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know how you are feeling. Let him know where you want your life to go, and ask him what his plan is for the future. If it does not satisfy you, tell him that you think that you are in a place where you want to see other people. This should accomplish two things, help him to see what he will miss out on if he doesn't find some direction, and make you free to see whomever you want to. Is it possible that you havent made any friends because you have been emotionally unavailable because of your boyfriend? You are starting a new life.........leave all of your possiblities open.
2007-10-08 03:41:19 · answer #2 · answered by krysmaslily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in college and your adult life is only just beginning.. 18 is too young to get so serious and you both obviously want different things in life. Perhaps if you were single you would be focusing on making new friends and settling into college rather than worrying about your boyfriend.. Take my advice and learn to be a strong single focused women.......
2007-10-08 02:52:01 · answer #3 · answered by tasha200 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to remember your promise to yourself. If he is not doing what you had wanted him to do then he is probably not going to make it far in life. I know it is hard to make new friends but if you say to yourself every morning when you get that I am a good person and a good friend it will be so much easier to make friends. Make a special effort to say hi to people and things will go better for you. The right one is out there I promise.
2007-10-08 03:03:27 · answer #4 · answered by jenniferk5683 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question!! You set up parimeters, at the beginning of the realionship, that he didn't even consider! Then he quit high school! yuk, what kind of life are you looking 4! If you start comprimizing your goals, you'll end up in rent subsidy housing & working @ McD's. Drop him if he's an under achiever!! You deserve better!!!!!!!
2007-10-08 03:43:43 · answer #5 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it's hard to do,
but live in the present,
if you're happy with him now,
then let it be.
2007-10-08 02:53:49 · answer #6 · answered by k.ryckman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋