LOVE IS A DECISION
To be loved is a basic need for all of us. And in order to be loved, we must love others. Love begets love, and vice versa. It is also the greatest commandment of God—that we love God and love others as we love ourselves.
Therefore, love is not basically a feeling or emotion—because we cannot reasonably be commanded to have a feeling. We cannot always control our feelings. But we can have control over our decisions and over our behaviour. Love is a decision and a behaviour. We are to love, whether we feel like it or not. And when we do, the feelings of love inevitably follow later.
Jay Adams, the well-known American Christian counsellor tells of a case where a married couple were determined to get a divorce—their marriage, they said, had reached the end—they have no love left for one another.
2007-10-21
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