Would you throw a Baby Shower for your 14 year old daughter?

Question

Just a question........

All responses welcome.

Reasons for it or against it welcome........

I guess people wonder why I ask, as I don't have children.

I have a co-worker who's daughter has found herself in this situation. She has pondered the idea, and doesn't know what to do.

As I don't have children, I have no right to give her adivse one way or the other. Because I can't give an opinion on a matter that I can't relate to.

So your opinions are helpful, no matter what they may be.

There are some very good points here..... but I will have to let it go to a vote.

Thanks for all the answers.

Answer 1

HECK NO!!! She'd be giving it up for adoption

Answer 2

For sure, the daughter and the child are as precious as any other human being. I personally would finding not having a baby shower quite discriminatory.
I was pregnant at sixteen, and the only reason I didn't have a baby shower was because that wasn't part of my culture. But all these years later, my son is no different from all the other children running around in the yard at daycare, in the sense that he's a human that deserves respect.
I am also a human like everyone else that deserves to be treated with dignity, that lives my life, feels, has a job, provides for my family and runs a household. Why you would deny someone the respect of throwing a baby show is beyong me.
I am not saying that it isn't a young age to become a mother, but they are still two humans that should be treated with respect.
All the best to her and the baby!

Answer 3

Well, while I wouldn't dream of condoning a girl getting pregnant at 14 years old, to not throw a shower for her would be hypocritical. I believe the shower is for the baby, not the mother. It's just that the mother is the one who is opening the gifts.

Also, by the time a baby shower is held, the baby's coming. And while I don't think it's right to allow a teenage mother (or father) to go on about their high school lives and have someone else care for the child they are having, the person least responsible for the situation is the baby. If throwing a baby shower means the baby has proper clothing, blankets, carseat, safety hardware (for babyproofing), bathing supplies, medicine cabinet staples (thermometer, nasal aspirator, nail clippers, etc.), I absolutely believe it should be done. Why should an innocent baby suffer because a lot of adults and teenagers made some really bad decisions?

Answer 4

I have a 2 year old and a 7 month old, both are girls..I would be dissapointed in my child but still love her and her unplanned baby with everything I have. I would plan a shower for her, not to approve of what she did but to let her no that I am there for her and proud that she had the courage to tell me instead for having the baby in some public bathroom without me there to hold her hand, and throw out the baby like garbage. I think that the children that get theirselves in these situation and do end up doing horrible things to these preciuos babies do it out of fear 9 times out of 10. I will teach my child that having sex is best after marrage but if this situation happens to occure that I will not disown her.

Answer 5

My daughter better not become a pregnant teenager....

With that said, I'd throw her a baby shower. I never had one, and I was an adult. It feels awful to know other people think it's an important thing to do and a helpful thing, but not to have one. It is not a very confident way to start out as a young mother. She will have the rest of her life to beat herself up for starting too early at this part of life. You don't want her going deeper into the bad by maybe hooking up with some random jerk guy who is willing to buy stuff for her but who hates babies and considers women as "things." It is even the (not that I'm the authority on this) Christian thing to do. Make a good impression on her by showing her, yes, you've got to work harder now, but you are still able to be forgiven, and you can still be a good productive person. She will mature much more quickly in a secure, loving environment than in a constantly guarded and self-doubting one.

Answer 6

if she has decided to keep the baby then your friend should support her daughter if she dosent then the daughter might just go else where and get herself into trouble. she is 14 years old she is still a baby her self so she will still need her mums guidence. yes i do believe she should throw her ababy shower because it benefits the baby , why should the baby go without, the mum may not want to do it as she does not want her 14yr daughter to think she is getting a reward or that she agrees with it, so tell your friend to explain to your daughter how she feels and that she will do it for the baby, that this baby is gonna need a lot. she needs to be there for the baby it is gonna need so much when it is born and i dont believe a 14yr can do it without her mum.

Answer 7

My mother gave my sister a shower when she was pregnant.....she was 16. My mother and father also did most of the parenting for my nephew, not to mention the financial aspect.

For my daughters, I honestly can't say. Maybe after beating my head against the wall for a while I would consider it. After their father gets done freaking out and threatening to ship them off to live in Mexico with their grandparents. That's a tough one. I wouldn't want to give the impression that I was okay with the situation, because I definitely would not be, not at all......sooooo not at all.

Answer 8

Yes. I think that every mother to be deserves to have a baby shower. It doesnt matter how old you are or how young you are, everyone enjoys celebrating a new life coming into this world. Hope that helped with your question.

Answer 9

So long as she is keeping the baby, I would say if anyone should have a shower, it's a young mother. She needs supplies just like anyone else, but I might restrict the guest list to very close friends and family.

Answer 10

I think I would. While it might not be the ideal age to become a mother, she is still becoming a Mom and a new life is joining the family. While a shower is for the Mom it is still a celebration for the new baby on the way.

Whatever one's feeling's are about how the 14yr old got to this point, there is a new baby who deserves to be valued and celebrated.

Answer 11

Well there are many things in life that happen that were not planned... I always felt a baby was a celebration of new life.... and life is something to celebrate... also it gives other friends and family members a chance to help out and give the baby many items that she will need , it also spares the mother alot of this cost since she will have many of those coming.... congrats and may god bless and keep you all