i'm vegan, but only because my mom makes me...?

Question

my mom is vegan, and she wants me to be. i don't want to. she won't let me order, buy, or eat any meat around or away from her. i've tried talking to her about it, but got nowhere. i'm 14 and weigh only 113 lbs. when i should be around 120 for how active i am. any advice? i get severely punished if i get cought!!!

Answer 1

send me your moms # . she needs a talkin too.thats totaly wrong!!!

Answer 2

You don't mention the reason for your mom's veganism (health, animals, religion etc.), so it's not easy to suggest how to get her to compromise on this issue. This is the 1st time I've heard of a child forced into being vegan against her wishes, usually the young person wants to go veg but the parents are skeptical. All the vegetarian parents that I know personally allow their kids to decide for themselves once they hit school age & some kids do eat meat @ least for awhile. It does seem odd that your mom monitors everything you eat while you're @ school.
While I personally would love it if everyone were vegetarian, I don't believe this can or should be forced upon anybody. As long as you're not bringing meat into the house, and try to discuss this calmly with your mom, maybe there is still some way around this. And as others have noted, you'll be on your own in just 4 yrs.

Answer 3

I'm not sure why your weight should be higher because of how active you are. That makes no sense.

You should be taking in more calories if you're active, but that's irrelevant to veganism.

I, too, am fairly sure you're just trolling. But... I'll respond anyway. How long has your mom been vegan? If you were raised vegan I find it hard to believe you want to eat meat this badly. If this is a new thing for mom, then tell her that. Tell her you don't care about animals like she does.

And now that I read your last sentence "i get severely punished if i get cought [sic]!!!" I know you're a troll.

Answer 4

Your mother is doing what's best for you. The FACT is that animal products greatly increase your chances of getting terrible, life-threatening diseases. And then there's the fact that animal product industries participate in extreme cruelty and the uneccessary taking of life. I would no sooner allow my child to eat animal products than I would allow her to huff paint or shoot heroin. If you don't weight enough you are not eating enough. Eat some more beans and rice and you'll be fine. Stuffing your face with cholesterol-laden foods isn't going to help you in any way whatsoever. Science has proven that a vegan diet can be healthy - if you're not healthy then talk to her about preparing meals that are more nutritious. If she can't tell you why it's best to be vegan then maybe suggest you both educate yourselves together to learn better why it's so important (BECOMING VEGAN is an axcellent book). Don't feel like your mom is trying to deprive you of doing something to be mean. She want what's best for you and a vegan diet IS best for you. If you become 18 and you really want to throw your health out the window then it's your right to do that then, but not when you're a child living under you mother's roof.

Answer 5

I'm really not sure if you're a troll because this is the 1st question you've asked on yahoo answers.

But assuming you are telling the truth... just eat meat when you're not around your mum. If she won't respect your wishes to eat it then don't respect hers. I wouldn't do it in the house though because it is after all your mum who pays the bills and cares for you.

If you want to eat meat then that's fine but don't blame your weight on being vegan. I was less than 100lbs when I was 14 and that was on a meat eating diet. I ate meat with every meal and still couldn't put on weight. If you're eating a balanced vegan diet then you should be healthier than most kids your age. There are body builders and pro athletes on a vegan diet so don't blame your weight on being vegan.

I'm very suspicious of this question but if it is genuine then just eat meat outside the house and tell your mum to respect your wishes.

Answer 6

Your mother tries to do what she thinks would be best for you. Your weight has nothing to do with not eating meat or dairy.
I am sorry you don't want to be vegan, but it's your choice.
Why not when at school eat what you like, or when you go out with friends? Or wait till 18 yrs old and then do what you wish.

Answer 7

Okay I can fix this. I have done it before on this site when a child was being "abused". I have contacted the Yahoo, got your info. I will get in touch with Child Services 1st. thing Monday morning in your behalf. Expect them to come to your home in a few days.
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On your weight. I doubt you should way that much, 1) Teens tend to be slender as you are still growing 2) You would need to be 5'7"or 5'8" to weigh that much.
I'll also give you the same advice if the deal was reverse. You can eat at school, out with friends a 'flesh eater" as you like.
As iut has been stated earlier, you just need time to move out on your own. As soon as you are old enough, get a job & start saving. By you 18th. birthday you'll would be able to do what you want.

Answer 8

Too bad, little one. You're still a minor and I'm guessing you still live with your mom. Get a job, move out and make your own decisions. Otherwise, get over it. You need to eat more food. It's simple. But if you exercise a lot, you won't gain weight not matter what you eat, vegan or not. Calories are what count and being vegan is healthy. Your body will thank you later.

Answer 9

You really need to have a talk with your mom. Explain to her that her vegan diet is not adequate for you at this point in your life. If she's willing to seriously boost your protein intake through vegan alternatives, that might work. But you have to make it clear that you're concerned about your health. If she refuses, or can't for some reason accomodate your dietary needs at home tell her that she has to respect your own decisions and to not give you a hassle if you eat non vegan away from home.

I personally find is sad when any parent does not realize the damage they are doing by enforcing a voluntary lifestyle without really, carefully examining the possible impact it has on their kids.

I wish you luck.

Answer 10

If you don't believe in veganism, you aren't vegan.
Your mom cannot make you believe in anything, therefore your mom cannot make you be vegan.

I have strong doubts that you aren't a troll that is foolish enough to not know how silly this post looks.

Don't even try to blame your weight on being vegan.
I've been vegan for over 4 years and when I went veg over five years ago I weighed 130 at 18 years of age. Now I'm 23 and weigh 175.

These people are vegan and they have no problems with staying in the shape that they want.
http://www.veganbodybuilding.com/?page=bios
Maybe your mom isn't very good at being vegan. Has she even educated you on the treatment of farm animals?
You could do the research and then tell your mom that if she wants you to be vegan, she had better learn how to feed you properly.

Answer 11

Well, most people eat meat because their parents make them. Most people do everything in their childhood because their parents make them do it. Piano lessons, broccoli, carrots, school, soccer...

Look around on this Answers section and you will find many teens who are upset because they want to be vegan, yet their parents force them not to be.

About your weight -- weight and age cannot be defined. I just saw on a youth TV show yesterday where they lined up all these kids of the same age. They were all different sizes, shapes, height, weight, etc. That was the whole point -- everyone is different. I'm 6 feet tall, but weight 145. Apparently I'm underweight for my age/height etc. But, they never take into account the fact that I've been bicycle racing for 15 years. I literally have no excess fat at all. Skin, muscle, bones... No one can be made to fit into their stupid charts on the doctor's office wall. Besides, those charts are for the AVERAGE person who eats lots of junk food, meat, more junk food, etc. If you are on a healthy vegan diet (I assume) then you cannot compare yourself to your friends who are not and so forth. Just be who you are and throw out that bathroom scale.

I would assume that: of course your mother only wants what's best for you, and of course you just want to hang out with your friends and do what your friends do and you don't what to be different etc.

Here's a personal story of some friends of mine. Husband vegan, wife not. He is very passionate about his lifestyle, she not. Kids grow up in between these to people. Imagine the mother always undermining what the father is trying to teach his children about. The kids feel they do not want to be different at school. They sneak and eat all kids of stuff with their friends. The parents eventually split up. The kids stay with the mother. She feeds them typical N. American diet to the anger of the father who decided he just cannot bear to be around her anymore and vice verse. The kids are now 18 and 22. The 22yr old was very much wanting to be the rebel teen and went out of his way piss his dad off etc. He continues his ways. The younger one was never as much in between the fighting parents and has chosen himself to go back to eating healthy again.

Anyway, you can do what you want when you are not around her. Fine, that's cool. No? Maybe she's a crap cook... if she could cook better, you wouldn't care at all. When it comes down to it, everyone just wants tasty food.