Keeping in laws away?

Question

Here the problem. They humilliated, mistreated, insulted...etc, my husband for years (before I meet him), but they are this kind of people that don't apology, NEVER! My husband worked since he was 15 until now (he's 25). All the money he earned (before i meet him) all the money went to his mother, he even had the same clothes that he had at 16 (i'm telling the truth, i brought him new clothes) he had the same clothes bcz all the money went to his mother. They (step father, all cousins and brothers, not the mother) called him idiot, retarded (my husband is the only one in his family with university), and so on. Now, his sister comes every month just to bring things that he left in his mother house. We told her to not come, but she still came. My husband don't speak with any of them, so his mother keeps calling my mother asking y he is acting different, and telling my mother that i'm responsible fot that. How I can keep them away? I dont want to call the police, but i'm getting frustrate

The "slow talk" dont work with this people, they just dont accept other people opinion, and dont respect other peoples lifes, no matter what.

Renee: that is already done, in many times, but thanks. That is y i'm asking, bcz we had done everything, but i dont want to call them the police.

GoodQuestion: do u know how to read or what? I see by ur tone that you are the possesive one. Maybe by your "so good answers" is that you only have 6% best answer. TAKE A READING CLASS!!!

Answer 1

i can feel frustration just by reading your post.well, as your husband himself has started ignoring them, all you need to do is react. just pretend they dont exist. when your mother inlaw calls your mother ask her to hang up the phone immediately when she finds its your mother inlaw, how many times will she call? may be 10 or may be 20 not more than that, if she still does go on doing the same. she might do this for a month not more than that, and if she comes in person to meet your mom ask her if she has come to talk about you and husband if yes, then ask her to leave.and just slam the door. and that will do for her and about your sister in law, when you open the door, you must stand at the door, and get your husbands things from her and dont even look at her, just slam the door, dont' let her come in. and if you dont want the things your sis in law brings just slam he door at her face or dont open. and just act as if there is no one at the door. do not by any chance try and keep any sort of relation ship with such people coz they will only coz harm to you and your family....

Answer 2

Your husband's relationship with with his family is none of your business especially when you are reacting to things you have no proof of. Even if half of that stuff is true your husbands relationship with his family members is none of your business. If your husband has so many problems with his family why isn't he saying so to his family or is this the only way he get attention from U? The fact that his mother called yours tells me you may be screwing with your husbands relationships for your own benefit. Are you an isolationalist?

Your notes include that you are an inlaw. A wife first...aka family to your husband also and I find it mighty strange you are not encouraging your husband to work out his relationships instead wanting to call the police on his mother. Please do not waste tax payers money. In fact, you might want to figure out what insecurity and possesiveness is. What does your mother have to say to this? Is she backing you on your behavior because if you were my daughter I'd tell you to grow up and behave like a woman.

Answer 3

Change your phone number, when she calls your mother, your mom needs to tell her that she is not getting involved and not to call if she is going to talk about you and your husband. When you sister in law comes over don't answer the door. Sounds tough and mean but that is the only way to get through to them if you don't want to call the police.

Answer 4

Yes, this definitely your Husbands "nasty bathroom" to clean. I opened my mouth to my Mother In Law once (and even my Brother In Law), and even though I stand behind what I did, it wasn't necessarily the best. It took a very serious conversation with my Husband that lasted several hours - we cried, laughted, yelled, and just plain cuddled and talked. But in the end, I did something right, because he realized that he wasn't a little boy anymore and that his family had to just let him go (and he had to let them go.) He went home, talked to his Mom, and no matter how it may have hurt, he told her the truth, told her that he was now living HIS life and he wasn't to tip toe around them anymore. He wasn't to run when they came callin'. It took her time, and his reminders, but it worked out. Now things are great. But this is your Husband's game to play.

Answer 5

Sounds like to me that calling the police is your last resort. Sometimes it takes a drastic measure to get your point across. Once the police is called the first time and they still keep returning, you can get an order from a judge to keep them away. If they return, they will be arrested. It may not be what you want to do but it may be what you have to do.

Answer 6

I think your husband needs to tell them off, and explain that he has his own life and he no longer wants anything to do with them , he has to finally stand up to them all and let them know he is control of his own life and for them to stop coming over stop calling in a really mean manner and if they dont stop he will get a restraining order on all of them...

Answer 7

Double lock the door, change the house phone number, change email addresses, mobile phone numbers, get the post office to intercept certain types of mail fro you. inform the local police department, to the potential of future problems with them visiting the house. don't communicate with them them in any form. also you could consider moving home, but i understand that may be difficult.
above all don't let them get you down, ignore them, it will be hard/difficult but it will work in the end.

Good luck

Answer 8

Call them up,and yell at them.

Say to his mum:STOP CALLING MY MUM AND TELLING HER THAT IM RESPONSIBLE FOR HIS DIFFERENT BEHAVIOUR! ITS YOUR FAULT! YOU TOOK AWAY ALL HIS MONEY AND CALLED HIM STUFF LIKE IDIOT,RETARD..ETC...If she swears at you just swear at her back

Say to his Sister:I THOUGHT I TOLD YOU TO NEVER COME TO MY HOUSE AGAIN! WE WONT LET YOU IN.HE DOESNT LIKE YOU!

I suggest getting a restraining order on ALL of them..Change the locks in your house,Change all phone numbers,Change emails,Change everything that they can communicate to you with!

Answer 9

I would stop opening the door and answering the phone....

Answer 10

Have your husband tell them that they are not welcome in your home any longer. Do not contact them. Change your phone number and if necessary move.