2nd question about raising children?

Question

In raising my children I only want to do what's right for them.

When it comes to meals how should I go about it?

When it come time to eat should I set the table with a varity of food vegtables, meats, juices, ice cream, soda, candy, cake, pie, pudding and etc?

Then should I not tell them what to eat should I just let them choose from everything that is in front of them which they want?

Wouldn't it be better for them if I let them choose what they want for themselves instead of "forceing" my on ideas on them?

They were born with a natural desire to eat sweets and junk food should I try to change what comes to them naturally?

Just because I see they should eat one way what most would consider "right" would it be wrong to let them go with the desire they born with?

gtahvfai - Have you never been a child? Have you never been around kids? Kids will choose to eat junk food over real food 99% of the time.

Boy do the unbelievers get upset. Use something else for a example and all the sudden they get upset.




Faith is the same way don s I know you know.

train up a child the way he should go

Answer 1

Whether you want to or not, as a parent you will be the single biggest influence on your children's lives. It is both your privilege and your responsibility to instill in them whatever values you deem important. Perhaps that's the value of letting people make their own choices, but even then, you're instilling YOUR idea that it's good to let people make their own choices.

Study after study proves that there's no greater influence on a person than that of their parents. All emotional, relational, religious, vocational and other "stuff" can be traced back to the parents ultimately.

I think that's why Proverbs says "Train a child the way (s)he should go, and when (s)he is old, (s)he will not turn from it."

Ultimately, you get to mold your children into anything you want, to a degree. It's a tremendous responsibility, but the rewards can be equally as great.

Answer 2

Teaching children to eat well starts an early age.Children will eat what you give them if their hungry.Give them pudding and they will develop a desire for pudding.Give them green beans and they will develop a desire for green beans.We have 8 children and have noticed that the younger children like vegetable more than the older ones do.When our children first came along we tasted what they ate and if we didn't like it we was sure they wouldn't neither.If you ever tasted Gerber #1 green beans and compared them with Gerber Haywain Delight you would know what I am talking about.

Answer 3

It is wonderful that you want to do what is right for your children. That is the goal of all parents. It is quite a responsibility.

As far as meal times go, you should fix a well balanced meal in whatever form you personally prefer. I would fix meat, vegetable, and starch. I never put ice cream, soda, candy, cake, etc. on the table for dinner. I put before my children what I wanted them to eat.

You may think that you are "forcing" your children to do what you want, but in truth you are "teaching" them the correct meal time behavior.

In my house, my rule was that we eat only at meal times, and we eat at the table. This may have been me "forcing" my children to conform, but it was my rule, and my way of teaching them proper behavior. As the mother, it is my goal to raise my children to be decent people.

By offering your children a balanced diet, you are teaching them, not forcing them. They will learn to enjoy a variety of foods, and they will learn what is part of a good meal, and what dessert is. Dessert (ice cream, cake, pies, etc.) is for after we eat all of our dinner.

If you allow your children to eat junk foods and cakes and pies instead of a proper diet, the chances are they will grow up obese and develop diabetes. As parents, it is our job to reduce the sugar intake.

Perhaps, if you do have children, you need to speak to their pediatrician, or a dietician, about how to feed children. If you think that you are "forcing" your personal ideas on your children, you need professional advice on how to raise children. As I see it, it is my job to "force" my personal ideas on my children. If I don't do it, no one else will.

Answer 4

As a parent,it was my duty to feed them correctly.They were children,I was the parent.I put good food out,with an occasional treat,but that is "what's for supper"Didn't like it?No problem,maybe you'll like breakfast.I would have been a lousy parent had I allowed them to make all their own choices,a lousy,and ultimately needless,parent indeed

Answer 5

It is 'natural' for a baby to poop in its diapers.
That is a habit they are born with.
It seems most parents try to train their children out of that habit.
When a child is conceived, it develops.
When it is born, it is still in the course of developing, however, mom and pop now have an occasion to share in it.

Answer 6

Your first concern as a parent should be good solid nutrition. Now ask yourself are cake, pie, candy, ice cream and soda really good nutritious foods? Or are veggies, fruit, meat and whole grains nutritious foods?

Answer 7

Again you are forgetting that some foods are good for you and others are not, it is a fact, plain and simple, as a parent you need to try and feed your child what is good for them, regardless of what they would eat (which child would not choose to live on a diet of ice cream and crisps and chocolate).

Religion is an opinion, a choice.

Answer 8

Proverbs 22:6
Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

Answer 9

If you can't figure out a simple choice between asking a question the 'Parenting' category and R&S, perhaps you should just keep pets instead of trying to raise humans.

Answer 10

Subtlety doesn't seem to be your strong suit, but I have to give you credit for trying.

The answer to your question is this. No you should not force feed your religious beliefs to your children. You should prepare them to make that choice for themselves, and this preparation should start at an age when they are capable of understanding what they are being taught.