13, in love, no chance?

Question

I'm 13, in the 7th grade, and in love with a girl for the right reasons (shes nice, cute, ect...). Problem is, that I have absolutly NO chance. This girl has about 5 different guys after her, but only because shes hot. Most of my friends think I only like her because she has big boobs (which isn't the reason why I love her). I'm nervous to ask her out or have my friends. Even if my friend asks her out for me, I wont be able to show my face around her (shy/nervous). Nervous about her saying no, that she may thing I'm wierd, and that I'm insane. Again, NO CHANCE. What should I do? She is in 4 of my classes which makes it harder, but good thing is I'm alittle older than she is (people in my school think if someone is even a day older, your screwed up).

I love her because of her. Not the image of her btw.

I know I'm 13, so what? Thanks for the feedback

Answer 1

u need to start talking to her. even if its just saying hi. and start up conversations with her. and after u guys are friends tell her how u feel and hope she feels the same. if she does then move on. ur only 13. u have ur whole life to find new love. so dont think ur life is over just cus some girl doesnt like u.

Answer 2

Ok...so glad you asked this because when I was in 7th grade I went through something that was the same, i wish I could go back and act cooler though lol...anyways Its awsome that you guys have classes together! You should make yourself noticed a bit, like help pass out papers in class and where some good cologne that day if you wear that stuff...or talk to someone on the other side of the classroom for a minute so she takes notice and if she needs help you should help her with stuff, I got to be with the guy I liked in grade 8 and I fell in love with him in grade 7 so I think you have a great shot! Just take it easy and youll do great!

Answer 3

You could send her a greeting card with a note to get her attention, like a Halloween card. Then wait to see if she notices you or smiles. You could then ask her for her phone number and try calling and talking. You will need to think about what you two have in common, what you might know or be able to help her with, if you are good in some of those classes you take together. You will want to think of things about your self and your life that you would like to share with her.

You may want to also think about whether there is anyone at school or elsewhere in your life who needs your love and friendship more. Someone may be very lonely and you could mean a lot to them. Sometimes even very nice people who are smart and talented are shy and need you to start a friendship.

Answer 4

Ah, love!

Never say you've got no chance, chances are what you make, not what you find.

If you're shy, as are many guys in your category, is it possible to send her a note or an IM?

Rather than have one of your friends ask, perhaps ask one of "Her" friends if you'd have a chance. Besides, if her friends like you, its almost a guaranteed "in".

She might find it nice that someone likes her for herself, and not for her body shape.

As she's in some classes, that gives you an excuse to talk to her, tell her you didn't get to write down the homework, and could she maybe help you with it at your house? Offer to make the snacks.

Perhaps you have a friend who's a girl who'll let you "practice" asking her out until you get over your shyness of trying it.

Almost everything is scary the first few times, so make the first few times less scary by asking a friend to help you playact until it feels natural to ask someone out.

When I was looking for a job, I was really really nervous, I spoke too much, spoke too little, said really dumb things. But they liked me for me, and I finally got the job I really wanted.

Going out is kinda like that, 'cause you pretty much have to "interview" for the job. You can always say, just one date, for pizza, and if we don't hit it off, no hard feelings ever. Works for a job, and will prolly work with her.

Just never sound desparate, girls sense that and run in the opposite direction! Trust me on this!

:P
Oh, almost forgot.. good luck!

Answer 5

Try to get her to notice you and find something in common. Sometimes you got to be the one who stands out. Don't be shy or nervous that won't do you good. Try to practice to talk normal and formal but not like a robot. Act normal, I know that you will say HOw can I act normal when I am nervous and shy. Well, relax, don't say things that are not appropriate or things that make you dumb (sorry). Greetings are best way to start a conversation and never loose the conversation. Find many things in common or else she will think you are done and she will become impatient with you. Nice words will also lead conversation.

Answer 6

OK it's easy to say don't be shy/nervous, I'm the same way, so I know.
It's easy to say what I would do and looking back I wish I had done this is just to go up to her and tell her that she scares the heck out of you and you are mustering up all you have to talk to her, maybe ask her out...go to see a movie? Be very polite show her that you have manners. If you want ask one of your parents to instruct you on the correct manners...just tell them you want to impress someone, that will impress them.
REMEMBER YOU HAVE A CHANCE. And so what if someone pushes in before you, when they break up you step in...with your manners.
If you are interested in anything else I have to say just contact me.
Tom

There are some really good ideas listed, I wish I has though of them.

Answer 7

myspace,
notes?
they both work well, and no chance of embarassment
also, m y girl is hot, guys are after her, but i got to her first.
those who try anything with her while ur going out, thouhg it wont impress her, beat em senseless.

Aks her out yoursefl though, it goes down as good in her books.
if she says no, whats the worst that can happen? u dont go out? then get to know her, and ask again!

also theres no probelm being a little older at all just so u know that.

Good Grammar, by the way!

EDIT: IGNORE THE PARENTS, THEY JUST ARE A LITTLE PROTECTIVE, UP THERE THAT SAY PAY ATTNETION TO THE GRADES PFFT!!! DO PAY ATTENTION, BUT DONT FORGET ABOUT GIRLS.

Answer 8

Not trying to 'burst your bubble', but at 13...you are not in love with her. You are in love with the notion of being in love with the hot girl. Get over it. Approach her and just say...Hi. It's that simple. The hardest thing when talking to girls is the awkward first conversation. Saying 'Hi' and a smile opens the door for further conversation. Worry about actually saying a few sentences with her BEFORE professing your undying love.

Good Luck!

Answer 9

Not to belittle you, but at this point in your life, you shouldn't be so stressed out over this stuff. You're only 13 and while you might think you are in love, you probably aren't. But in any case, it seems your best chance is just to get up the courage to say something and say it! Good luck no matter what your age =]

Answer 10

do not ask her out, or whatever... you both are still young, why dont you try being nice to her and show that you want some kind of good friendship, dont make moves on her, that will not be good.. but dont be tooooo nice... talk to her and GET TO KNOW HER.. pay attention to details. another thing that will be good... find something shes good at and you suck at... for instance... history or something.. ask her if she might be able to help (NOT CHEAT) you out with your homework.. that makes for a good friendship bond...stay single just be really good friends,. go for the "high school sweethearts". when you become like 15 or 16... then you can make your move and ask her out