I've been with the same guy for a year and a half, I love him and he loves me... but he makes me cry, a lot. And I've cut because of him and he is kind of controlling sometimes. He feels bad about it, he even says so, and I don't think he tries to or anything but he keeps asking me what he can do to make it up to me and how he could make me feel better instead of worse and I don't really know. So what should I tell him? That I think he's being a jerk and he needs to do better or keep saying it's okay and he isn't doing anything wrong.. because I'm not even sure.
2007-09-22 12:55:08 · 7 answers · asked by WishinIwasdifferent 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay well wow... I couldn't break up with him. Everyone says that... I do love him, and he never means to im just really sensitive and yea, i dont know...
2007-09-22 13:16:04 · update #1
Thanks for the support, I talked to him last night about all of this and he promised he'd be better. I actually noticed change within minutes of telling him :) He feels really bad and he said he agrees with all of you. Thanks :)
2007-09-23 04:50:34 · update #2
you def need to talk to him about this. communication and honesty is key. tell him how you truly feel. his "feeling bad" doesnt mean ****, he has to def change.
2007-09-22 12:59:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A Man that is controlling will do nothing but drain you..I had a relationship like that for three years..I thought we would get married..it is as if no matter how hard you try to please him, its not enough, that is why you are crying so much, I was the same way and told him, he thinks it is ok treat a woman he loves like that cause it is might fault for not being obedient completely, I am madly in love with him and he loves me too, this broke my heart badly...then he broke up with me by text a few weeks ago cause I am annoying...so my point is be careful...if he thinks it is ok to control you to the point to make you cry, that is not healthy, then that would turn into being ok to verbally and physically abuse you...I would try to talk to him about it now..good luck hunny!
2007-09-23 11:04:58 · answer #2 · answered by Deb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like to know what you found in this guy to love for the past 18 months.Is it that he makes you cry, that he is controlling, that you cut yourself, or that he says he loves you.This sort of behavior eventually progresses to abuse in all its form.You can stay with him if 1)you are a masochist and enjoy pain2)you have no self love or self respect3)you have no self esteem and think you are lucky to have him4) you don't think you are worthy of being loved by a good guy. Or you can turn your back on this idiot, tell him to take a hike, and walk---no, run--in the opposite direction from him.Then find a new guy who can love, cherish, respect,and want to be with you.Start crying out of joy and happiness for a change.
2007-09-22 20:13:06 · answer #3 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh no, girl you need to leave him. Go watch the Ike and Tina Turner movie... it always starts with "I'm Sorry" and "I Promise I'll Get Help"
2007-09-22 20:36:37 · answer #4 · answered by ShezFly2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL, IF YOU FIND HIM CONTROLLING NOW THEN FORGET IT ONCE HE HAS YOU ON A PERMANANT BASIS HE WILL CONTROL YOU ALL THE TIME, GOOD LUCK
2007-09-22 20:03:14 · answer #5 · answered by KATIEKAT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that he is making u sad.tell him not to give u a hard time and to be more suporting.if not dump him!
2007-09-22 20:02:26 · answer #6 · answered by fallinginlove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of this ... it will only get worse
2007-09-22 19:58:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋