My mums a single milf?

Question

Im 19 shes 35 and single, but she doesnt act like my mum, but like my cool sister that I never had, I hang with her a lot, but I abssolutlely hate the attention she receves, due to her wearing tight jeans, miniskirts, showing cleavage etc. My mates are always over down my house, they chat her up, flirt, annoy me like 'your mums hot,'looks like pornstar' and all that, my friends arentnly ones, its men too, like in town when i go somewhere with her I see old and young men checking her out and she enjoys it, but not me i feel uncomfortable about guys thinking about my mum as a 'sex goddess.' Recently shes started dating and I dont want this, I never needed a father before and I dont need one now, its fine when its just me and her, so I will feel really awkward when she starts to bring someone to the house and bedroom and if she settles with a man older or younger than her and maybe even have more kids with him and forgetting about me Or even just being 'humped and dumped and hurt.

What should I do about this?

Im just not liking the attention, shes not the only attractive women in this world, and I understand the flirting my friends do is harmless, but what if it isnt, what if they are trying to and actually end up sleeping with her, where does that leave me knowing a friend slept with my mum or is planning to for example, by showing up at my house when only she's there and somehow convincing her to go along with it, u probably think im paranoid or something but it could happen.

Answer 1

If you dont like it, move out. Sorry kid- but you'll understand one day.

Answer 2

Obviously your mom likes the attention she gets from wearing her clothes. If your 19 and she's 35 that means she had you when she was 16. So with a kid at 16 she didn't get to go out much or have a social life. She's an adult just like you are now and she is entitled to date and have fun if she wants. Your wrapping your life up too much into your mom's. At 19 you should looking forward to your own future and dating. And as far a dad did she tell you she was looking for a father for you? Maybe she's lonely and just wants some companionship. You are being very selfish.

Answer 3

I know this must be hard for you. For your own sanity you should just put your mom out of your mind and concentrate on forming relationships with other people and stay busy building your own life. She'll come around one day, she sounds like she suffers from low self-esteem. You are perfectly entitled to have your feelings, don't let these other rude people try to tell you otherwise. The only thing is that there is probably not much you can do to change her and it's best to just let her be till SHE grows up. Is there an older woman you can talk to who is more mature than your mom like a grandma or other relative? Are there any teachers or neighbors you know you can confide in? No matter how much older I get there are times I still need my mom from time to time. Many people stay close to their parents even in adulthood, nothing the matter with that. I hope things work out the best for you!

Answer 4

You sound as if you have a deep relationship with your mom, but you are wanting her to be more motherly. I think she is probably just very lonely, and has dedicated alot of her time with you, but needs an adult relationship now. You are 19, and soon, you'll probably be moving out and then what? She'll really feel lonely. Everyone wants a mate. A lifetime partner. And even if she does have more children, she could never forget you. She obviously loves you. If its her clothing that bothers you, sit down and talk with her, and if it's more than that, sit down and talk with her. As for your friends, set some boundries with them. Tell them that she is your mother and you really do not like to hear those kind of comments come out of their mouths even if they do think she is hot. Maybe you could hang out with them at their house instead. Good luck hun.

Answer 5

Your mother has every right to have someone in her life. What concerns me is the fact that not only did you never have a father, but it doesn't sound like you actually had a mother. Mothers are not people you hang out with and are not cool older sisters. They are moms. That's a job, not just a title.

You are way too concerned about your mother's sex life for a 19-year-old. You are still her child and she's not going to forget you. It sounds to me like you both have some growing up to do.

Answer 6

Confused it certainly must be difficult having a Mum that is so hot but that is the fate that you have been dealt. Besides you may end up taking after her and looking rather young and attractive as you age. If you are that uncomfortable with her dress style then you can politely ask her to try and dress more age appropriate as it embarrasses you. She may not even be aware of how much it bothers you. But for you to want her to devote her entire life to you at your age is extremely selfish. You are 19 years old now and will not always be there for your mom. So why should she not attempt to find a partner to share her life with and perhaps find a man who will treat her with respect and love and admire her. We as humans all want to feel wanted, needed and loved and your mom is no different. Why not try and be happy for her if and when she finds someone to share her life with. I guess my advice would be to be honest with her regarding her dress fashions but also to support her in any love relationships she may want to experience. Best of luck to both of you.

Answer 7

You're 19. By now she isn't doing this for you, she's doing it for herself. She's not dating to find you a father because you're already grown up. She's dating to alleviate her own loneliness and to hopefully find herself a new partner.

And as long as she's not sleeping around with half the guys in town, don't worry about how she dresses. Yes, it may be inappropriate to a degree, but aren't there more important things to worry about? Once she finds the right man she'll probably settle down. Until then, girl just wanna have some fun, so let her enjoy herself so long as she doesn't start getting self-destructive about it (such as sleeping with a man just to make him like her and going out partying all night long).

In short, grow the 'f' up and start acting your own age. Let her find a little bit of happiness without you always having to be the center of her universe.

Answer 8

If your mother decides to date again, it's to satisfy some human need in her life for companionship, socialization and affection, NOT to provide you with a father or father-figure. It's perfectly natural that you would find this a bit unsettling, but it's also perfectly natural that it's occurring because at 35 your mother is hardly ready to be "put out to pasture". YES, you certainly keep a jaundiced eye peeled for any lowlife shady types who would seek to just use your mother (and keep up the good work), but your mother has more life experience than you give her credit for (or than you may even be aware of)...I know this because she managed to raise a 19 year old man thoughtful enough to give a damn about what happens to her. She knows what she's doing and she'll be fine...trust her. Good luck to you both.

Answer 9

Get over it. She's a grown woman and she can make decisions for herself. And this jealousy thing you have for her potential mates sounds a little Froydian. You can ask her if she wouldn't mind respecting your feelings about her atire when your friends come over, but that's it. She can date if she wants, who she wants, and wear what she wants. You have no say in that. Besides, don't you want her to be happy? She's only 35. And you'll probably be leaving home soon to start a family of your own. That's a lot of years left for her to be alone if she doesn't find someone.

Answer 10

You're 19. You need to be away at school or you should get a job and move out on your own. It sounds like your mom is being silly but it is not your place to control her and it's time to get on with your own life.

I find it highly unlikely that your mom will sleep with one of your friends. If she does that means she is screwed up and you should get away from her. It sounds like her self esteem is really low. I am 28 with a nice body but I don't dress like a whore, nor do a lot of people.

Answer 11

Get a job and move out. Your an adult now at nineteen. If you dont like your mother haveing her own life, then go have your own .

Think of it this way, at your age you shouldnt let anyone tell you what to do or how to live your life, so don t let anyone do it to you, and respect other adults for there Freedom.

Move out or live with it.

I was married to a milf. she had kids. she cried all the time cause her kids were just like you, Not caring about Her life , only being selfish about your Own.

Your nineteen. Either leave to your own life, or be quiet and respect your mothers choice.

Or act like a selfish uncaring bratty child and ruin your mothers Freedom.

One path leads to heaven the other to hell.