herpes? why is it so hard for a regular person to find someone to date and have that relationship last longer than a year without the other person leaving you just because you have herpes? does anyone know and is aware that herpes is not hiv, nor aids, millions and millions of people have it, yet no one seems to be okay with it.
would you?
2007-09-08 14:34:57 · 11 answers · asked by The healthy freak 2 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
Go to your doctor and get a prescription for Valtrex.
This wonder drug for herpes will stop the little bugger.
And finding some that loves you unconditionally is hard period. Regardless of what you have.
But I understand were you're coming from. I dumped someone once because they had herpes. But I was young and ignorant.
And if you think someone should feel any different about someone with HIV as opposed to herpes, it's not your herpes that is keeping you from finding a relationship. It's your ignorance. You reap what you sew!
2007-09-09 07:50:22 · answer #1 · answered by Pilot boy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many people deal successfully with herpes all the time. In most cases, it is only a minor inconvenience.
there are over 65 million people in America with an incurable STD? These numbers are continuing to rise across the nation, and 20% of the population is now suffering from genital herpes.
To start a new life with other herpes singles or friends, please check out this community for Herpes: http://www.stdpal.com
2007-09-10 05:23:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A LOT of people say they would NEVER date someone who has herpes, but I find that hard to believe. It's not NEARLY as bad as people make it seem. Like you said, it's not HIV/AIDS!
Herpes WON'T cause death, WON'T cause infertility, and WON'T cause cancer like other STDs out there. In fact, it has NO long term affects on a person's health. Sure the outbreaks are painful, but they heal. And, yes, it is a life long virus, but it's not deadly!
Almost everyone out there has some kind of herpes virus in them. It's estimated about 75 - 80% of the WOLRD has cold sores, while 25% of the world has genital herpes. And, the herpes virus is responsible for other illnesses and diseases as well, like the chickenpox, shingles, and mono. BILLIONS of people have herpes.
People have just built up this huge deal when it's really not. I have been in several successsful relationships with men, even though I have genital herpes. One relationship lasted 4 years and he never even contracted the virus from me!
Don't worry about it. There are a lot of people out there who don't mind dating someone who has the virus. They see them and their great personality, not the virus they have. Good luck and take care!
2007-09-09 02:59:51 · answer #3 · answered by Alli 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are right. There is a huge stigma associated with herpes in the community and it all stems from ignorance and a lack of education. 1 in 8 people have HSV type II and 80% of adults have HSV type I (either the oral or genital version), so it's very common. Unfortunately because it ISN'T a life threatening virus, government and medical bodies don't put a lot of emphasis on educating people in the community about the virus and encouraging empathy (at least they don't in Australia anyway).
It is difficult to live with the virus, but try and be positive. It's only a virus after all and it doesn't define us. The emotional trauma that comes with the virus is far greater than the physical symptoms, so if you can get on top of that, half the battle is won. Remember to love yourself and others will love you too.
Also, you can always try and date people that also have the virus and then there is no problem with acceptance. There are many specialist dating sites for people with genital herpes if you do a search on google.
All the very best.
Harmony
http://www.harmonyonline.com.au
2007-09-08 22:00:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
I don't know yet. I'm just as worried as you. I've had it for 8 years now, and I decided to leave my wife because she wasn't good for me. I decided living in a horrible marriage was worse than not knowing whether someone will ever truly accept me and my condition. I'm trying to be optimistic though. Try not to let it consume your life. Pilot Boy's comments were very true. People just have to grow up and learn the facts.
I believe Ana made a very ignorant comment. She's obviously some kid that hasn't been through life yet, or she has no idea what she's talking about. Just because you have H doesn't mean you're trash that was screwing everyone! $hi@ happens. Her metality won't get her far in life.
Keep your head up and just be honest with guys that you think could be the one. If you want to have sex with people, take your meds, and use condoms. The risks will be minimal to your partner.
If someone walks out on you because of Herpes, it will hurt, but it just means they weren't worth $hi@ in the first place. Whomever does eventually accept you, you will know how deeply they care about you.
You can email me if you want to talk more. :)
2007-09-09 20:10:57 · answer #5 · answered by TXboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, i have to say to ana that i DID get herpes from someone i loved and we were together for two years. second of all there are good dating sites like MPwH (meet people with herpes (http://www.mpwh.com/) that cater only to people with herpes so that you can meet someone that you don't have to worry about judging you! i also belive that being honest immediately you can screen the people who do have a problem with your disease....
2007-09-09 02:04:59 · answer #6 · answered by becky99201 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i had a relationship with a man for five years who had herpes. i have friends and family members with herpes and yes it is very common.
2007-09-08 23:17:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
well the world is a funny place and all type of people live in it
2007-09-12 11:52:16 · answer #8 · answered by rrobtex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be OK with it... I think its gross because the person obviously didn't have sex with someone they loved. If you can go around having sex with people that you havn't had a strong relationship first, no wonder why its unnatractive. That is the only reason why people get herpes. Think about it.
2007-09-09 00:46:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 7⤋
IDK... If I really loved the person I would definately find a way to work around it...
2007-09-08 21:55:37 · answer #10 · answered by Kali 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋