My husband is currently stationed in Iraq and will be home a few days before thanksgiving after doing a 15 month deployment. His dad wants to come up to see him come home, he lives over 2,000 miles away and I want him to come up but Im afraid. I had my mom come visit us 2 years ago, she was 62, my son woke up in the middle of the night and found her passed away on our couch from COPD. Im so afraid that is going to happen again, my father in law is 64 he has asthma,emphysema,COPD, diabetes,is on blood thinner medicine, full oxygen,nebulizer , he has a total of 25% lung capacity and many many more meds that i cant even remember, and on top of all this he still smokes 2 packs a day. He says he wants to come up because this will be his last holidays,and he hasnt seen us in 4 years. I really want him up here but Im so afraid, will he be allowed to travel, I called amtrak and they said he can bring the oxygen, but its a 38 hour trip, airplanes wont allow him. How do I handle this??
2007-08-22 09:20:26 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Respiratory Diseases
i meant will he be able to travel, not be allowed...and us going there for the holidays isnt an option, because of the army
2007-08-22 09:28:26 · update #1
i would never deny him coming up, i want to see him, i miss him...im just worried how hard the trip would be on him...and yes i am a strong army wife, but deep down im still only human
2007-08-22 09:36:32 · update #2
Ideally if someone could travel with him, to help him during the trip would be best. imho.
I understand your fears... and I think they are not just for yourself but for your FIL too. It will be a difficult trip, but he will just be sitting and probably sleeping on the train....
I am sorry about your mom and the fact your son was the one to find her. That had to be difficult for you all. But gee think about... she was able to spend her last hours with the people she loved the most. So isn't that sort of a gift to her?
2007-08-22 09:46:26 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good luck...it sounds like it may be the last time he gets to see everyone...if wants to do it...let him. Explain to the kids, he is sick...that can happen when you get old. You would regret not allowing it if he passed away and didn't get his last holiday with his son, because it was going to be hard for you.
It will be hard, but, If you are a military wife...you are used to being strong when life is hard...God Bless you and your family.
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Yes...if Amtrak said yes, then he can...if he is willling...it will be a hard trip.
2007-08-22 16:33:35 · answer #2 · answered by Stacey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might suggest he hire an aide to travel with him, but if he truly wants to make the effort to come to see his son, you must honor that.
2007-08-22 16:43:15 · answer #3 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋