2007-07-14 08:48:40 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
Don't tell her anything ,just be there for her when she needs you.Let her know she can call you anytime when she needs you.
2007-07-14 08:52:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My advice is for her to take a deep breath and immediately research places in her area that provide health care to people in her situation. I am HIV positive as well and was in quite a delicate situation when I found out. Luckily, I live in NYC and had access to more than adequate health care. Intially it was very devastating but I did get the help I so desperately required. Several years later, I am taking medicine that has led to a undectable viral load and over six hundred t-cells. Please tell your cousin that she will go on and have a life. The virus has changed quite a bit and it is not what it was many years ago. Despite the stigma, it is indeed a manageable illness. But regardless, she needs to go see the doctor to determine at what level the virus is at and what options she has. As long as she gets the right medical attention, she will have hope and the ability to create a whole new life. I would tell her that she is loved and that she is not alone. Also tell her to consider joining a newly diganosed support group. That will help her tremendously, believe me. What your cousin needs at this point is unconditional love and support. Be there for her. Expect her to be angry and confused, I sure was. But after seven years of the HIV diganosis, I am going strong and returning to college in the fall. I am even dating and live by myself. So, be there for her the best you can and tell her that many people will love her for her. Not her status. Give my very best to your cousin and please emphasize that there is help for her.
2007-07-14 16:13:15 · answer #2 · answered by EvanNY 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just let her know that you are there. Involve her in your activies, and treat her as a regular friend. Don't go out of your way too far, as she'll feel guilty about it. Just be there as needed. Do not smother her. Everyone else will do that for you.
As her needs increase, it is harder, so then you'll have to step up your commitment. She may need help getting to treatment, shopping, etc. Eventually, she may need even more help.
Stay positive. Don't treat her as "aids", treat her as your cousin.
2007-07-14 16:00:39 · answer #3 · answered by drslowpoke 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At this point is it Aids or HIV? If she takes her medications that the doctors give her and keeps herself healthy she can stave off actual AIDS. Magic Johnson has had HIV for close to 20 years. Exercise along with a proper diet and medications can immensly increase her chances of survival.
2007-07-14 15:54:34 · answer #4 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
tell her you love her and will always be there for her. tell her she is not alone there are plenty of HIV/AIDS support groups outthere. HIV/AIDS isnt the death sentence is was 10-15 years ago. With the proper medical care is san still have a full life. Just be there for her.
2007-07-14 19:28:07 · answer #5 · answered by kystik83 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would probably make her feel better to know that a study was recently done in Sweden that showed those with HIV who are treated with proper antiviral medications which they properly adhere to can expect to live approximately 39 years after diagnosis. So her life span should not be significantly shortened. Medications are only getting better now as well.
2007-07-14 16:06:07 · answer #6 · answered by mispriss 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Always support her! She's going to go through a whole range of emotions...probably anger, denial, fear..all that. She'll need an anchor beside her that will always be there. Let her know that if she wants to talk you're there, if she doesn't want to talk about...you're there too. Good Luck and God Bless.
2007-07-14 16:01:03 · answer #7 · answered by Pet Luvr 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Help her learn how to take care of herself. There is a lot to learn about supplementing with proteins and other nutrients and herbs to keep well when you have HIV.
2007-07-14 15:53:21 · answer #8 · answered by Susan M 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her you just saved a bunch of money on your car insurance by switching to Geico.
2007-07-14 15:53:28 · answer #9 · answered by Nashville Guy 5 · 0⤊ 4⤋
just wait til she comes to you. and don't act different towarsd her. show her some love and affection
2007-07-14 15:55:55 · answer #10 · answered by niblzz 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋