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Question

ive had two miscarrages in the last 6 months, had a investigation to find out why, my results came back yesterday and said i have clhmidiya (however u spell it) i had a full screening for std's before i went into new relationship with new partner which was two years ago and i was clear as i have just found out i have a STD i very angrily cnofronted my boyfriend, and after a while admitted he slept with some one with std but not whilst with me , but never had it checked as he reckoned he was protected, im very upset about this and cant have him near me , at all, now i dont want n e advice i just want some suppport , im wondering why he never told me and as a result of his stupidty he has caused me two pain miscarriages of my babies, i have been left extremly devasted and i dont know what to do , i feel as if my boyfriend is hiding other stuff from me now am i paronoid? or being silly?

but i feel like he has killed my babies not even if heknew they were going to die but thats the reason why they are dead, my little boy died june7th this year 16 weeks why do i think he has killed them, im still greieving for both of them as my first child i miscarried was due the 5th of june this year so it has all came at once help me

Answer 1

He put you at risk of having Aids,we don't know. You should get checked for every thing now you know what you are dealing with. Yes, he did cause you two lives, if you are any kind of a woman I don't think you will be able to ever trust him again. I already know you are not the type of woman that will except a cheater and the man that is responsible for the death of you two children. Let him go for you and the next child you bring into this world or so that the child will have a fair chance of getting here. He should have told you even if it meant you leaving him. This is your life and you deserve more then" I am sorry". What about the next time, don't let him tell you it won't be, because it will.
There's something about a man, he can be very dumb, when you turn your back to his cheating. He feels you will never walk away, and he begins to think you are weak. He never think of it as a second opportunity to make things work. don't ask me why, but they don't. Give him the chance, I will bet my life this guy will cheat again. Move on, if not for you ,do it for your future children. If by chance you keep him please don't have children by this guy, it would be a big mistake. I am sooo sorry about the miscarriage.

Answer 2

No, you're not paranoid or silly. Your boyfriend had a moral obligation to inform you of any STD's, past or current. Anyone who goes around spreading disease is a dangerous individual. I would ditch this boyfriend ASAP! For your own protection in the future, never have unprotected sex, even if you feel you can trust your partner. I'm sorry about your miscarriages. Be sure to check with your gyno, to make sure you are not still infected. If you are, you can be treated so this doesn't happen again. Good luck!

Answer 3

Doesn't sound silly at all, you have suffered a terrible loss, and then found out your boyfriend was not honest with you.
I guess part of it with him was that it happened before he met you, and he was probaly not showing any symptons so being a typical man didn't think anything of it. Although stupid, he couldn't have foretold what was going to happen.
For yourself you might see if you are able to get some sort of counselling to help you with your loss. At the moment that loss is clouding everything, including how you feel about your boyfriend.
I am so sorry for your loss, the only positive about this and it will by no means make your loss any easier, is that there was a reason for it, and once you have been treated for it, then any subsequent pregnancies should be fine.

Answer 4

I'm so sorry about your miscarriages. and I do not think you're being silly.
I do however, feel that you have extremely good reason for not trusting your partner.
I would leave him as quick as I could get my things packed. he gave you an std, and that alone is bad enough. but he caused you to lose two children also. and he could have just as easily given you hiv.
you can't trust this guy sweetheart. and you need to get away from him now.
there are still good men out there who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
Best Wishes.

Answer 5

Your not being paranoid or silly, you feel betrayed by someone you completely loved and cared about. I feel your pain I really do. He probably never had the balls to tell you or was embarrassed that he put u that predicament. Who knows why men do most of the things they do. We just Love them and move on. Make sure he gets checked put if your going to stay with him, preferably sooner than later and then Drag his A*S to the DR every few month's and he'll likely straighten up and fly right if he wants to stay with you.

Good Luck, and Sorry for your losses :-)

Answer 6

u are far from being silly and u are being concerned.. u cant expect most guys to honestly tell u who they have had sex with or wat they have had, because they feel a level of insecuriy from it and they really dont want ne one else to know.. u have every right to be mad. but u two do need to eventually sit down and talk about your level of trust with each other because he should have told u because that would have been in the best interest of the relationship... ask him does he care about ya relaionship?

i know there is love between you two and u should try and reslove this and work this out
i believe you can do it and i am hoping the best for you

Answer 7

Get rid of him... A.S.A.P. You can do much better than him. You deserve better. Find someone who will treat you like a princess. Get a restraining order on that guy and tell him to stay the Hell away from you.

First kick his ***

Answer 8

feel really sorry for you, you should get ride of him I dont think I could ever forgive someone for doing that to me your better off with out him.
Good luck
xx