My daughter's wedding will be at 10:00 a.m. on Saturday July 7. Ceremony and lunch to follow will be at the

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same beautiful and elegant garden-like environment in a Crystal room. The open bar will serve juices, soft drinks and wine right after the ceremony. Champagne
will be served by waiters inviting the guest to take their seats for the toast to be given. Lunch will follow, and wine
will be served at the tables. At the time of cake and desserts , coffee, tea, and water will be served. Her fiance and her are now suggesting to re-open the bar after dessert, and to include beer, before and after the meal. I
find beer to be inadequate for the very elegant wedding settings. The party is to be over at 2 p.m. I feel that we need to assume responsability for people not to leave light headed in the heat of the summer and avoid any accidents. Drinks before and during the really sumptuous meal
should be more than sufficient. I find no necessity to reopen the bar, and find beer to be distasteful for the elegance provided.
Can you please advise us. Thank you

Mother of the bride.

Answer 1

It is not your wedding. Make your feelings known then leave it alone. I am sorry this isn't your day. Your daughter doesn't need the stress of a know it all mom trying to tell her how HER day should be run.

I understand the responsibility aspect, but it isn't your responsibility, it is the bar tenders, and the drinkers responsibilities.

Answer 2

I am a photographer...and do weddings several times a month. I see beer at some weddings. really it is up to the bride and groom. I personaly would have beerm just wine and cocktails. Since you are having such a short wedding recption I would say leave the beer out. Especially if it is a formal dress code for the wedding. Often I see people closing the bar around dessert. It seems pretty fair, that way people can sober up and drive home. Plus it will save you on cost =)

I have to work 7-7-07 too and its a very big wedding. I wish the best of luck to your daughter and soon to be son in law!!! CONTGRATS!!!!

Answer 3

Although there is nothing wrong with beer. Beer is served at the most elegant, classy places all over the world. I do agree with you that an early wedding and reception ending by 2pm, that more alcohol is not needed. If your daughter and husband to be have a lot of friends and they would like to continue to celebrate after 2pm, then perhaps suggest they have a party after the party later in the evening.

Answer 4

I totally agree with you. I am sorry that the bridal couple wants this . I hope you will be firm in your refusal since you would be liable should anything happen. I see on tv shows terrible things that happen at wedding when people have too much to drink. You are serving more than enough alcohol so do not let them intimidate you. The less said the better about it. Just dismiss it with' I assure you the wedding will be perfect!' . I presume you are paying? If they want to take over the entire cost then, let them have a drunken brawl. It wont be pretty.
I commend you for organizing a short and lovely wedding that does not drag on for hours and days, boring everyone.

Answer 5

Lots of answers, lots of opinions in here! First of all, you sound like you are trying to make sure that your daughter's special day is beautiful, elegant, and an event to remember! Congratulations on your hard work and intentions. I'm sure it will be perfect. Now, for the hard part, can beer ever be "elegant"? Well, sure it can, as long as its served in those lovely glass beer glasses! Your daughter's choice to have the bar re-open after the cake's been cut is hers to make, and it sounds like she wants the party to continue as long as possible, however,unless she and her "husband' are going to be leaving for their honeymoon lickitysplit at 2:00, why not continue the festivities for her closest buds at their new home or favorite watering hole? And, if they are leaving right away, then I see no reason to re-open the bar after they leave. Anyway, if you're paying, you get to decide. If you aren't, then ask your daughter what her logic is and let her have at it.

Answer 6

Congratulations to your daughter on her special day.
I apologise if you take offense, but you seem to have a type of alcohol snobbery, although I agree with you that the elegant setting provided requires a certain level of elegance and decorum on the part of the guests, this does not exclude the consumption of 'beer' or other less sophisticated alcoholic beverages.
I have witnessed with my own eyes, a shambolic alcoholic, drinking a medium priced sauvignon in Kennington park(south London). His friends were partaking of a cheap brand of cider(White Lightning). The gentleman concerned neither appeared nor acted any more or less sophisticated than his peers. The level of sophistication and elegance is within the person, not the alcohol served.
Maybe your real concern is the calibre of some of the guests.

Answer 7

You should listen to your daughter on this one. A wedding is an opportunity to party, feast, and celebrate, and you should let the drink flow. Don't try to make this so fancy that everyone ends up having a dull time. Let the young crowd have their fun, and keep the bar open. Also, let them have the beer. Their driving arrangements are not your responsibility, and you should trust your guests to make the right decision. Good luck.

Answer 8

I agree with you!
If you were going to have a big party after the meal with dancing and people more relaxed and having a good time - then yes, re-open the bar.
BUT... since it is a nice elegant sit down meal and will be over at 2pm - soon after people eat - then no, don't invite them to get drunk by opening the bar.
Does that make sense?

Answer 9

ok MOB... Its not your wedding. You had your wedding already. If you daughter and future son in law want beer at their wedding so be it. You dont think for one minute that people cant get drunk on wine and champagne??? Some of their guests might not like either.

Answer 10

It may be up to the bride and groom, but I agree with you. I say no beer - especially that early in the day. Otherwise it sounds like a lovely wedding.