Sexually Transmitted Disease?

Question

When is the right time to ask your date about when was the last time they were tested for STD's?

I'm a pharmacist and the guy im dating for the past 2 weeks just got a refill of Valtrex..herpes..How do i tell him i know about it or how do i approach him about the subject...or should i tell him i cant see him anymore.... eventhough he seems like a really really nice man...

Answer 1

Only bring it up if you plan to become intimate. Why even bring it up to his attention if you don't plan on being with him. You are going to make him feel uncomfortable for nothing. I also have it and its very very hard to have to tell someone you have that. I always wait for the right time (before become intimate) before I can tell them. I don't blur it out on our first day and I definitely don't tell them right before we become intimate. There is a time and place for everything. I am sure he was going to tell you.

Believe me its not an easy task to tell anyone. And normally you like to tell someone when you see there is potential for a relationship. When you see that you might get somewhere with this person. You just don't go on 5 dates with 5 different guys in a month and tell them all. You have to see if this is the person you could see yourself with. Not everyone is mature and will understand this skin condition like you. Everyone reacts different.

Educate yourself before you push this man away. I know its hard but hey if he has everything you are looking for then give it a try. You being a pharmacist should know everything about this skin condition. I call it a skin condition because it nothing but a skin condition. People just blow it out of proportion.


BTW if you have only been talking for 2 weeks that is maybe why he hasn't told you. It hasn't been long enough for him to tell you. Remember he will tell you when he feels its the right time. And if he tells you..he's a great guy. A lot of people aren't honest about it. They sleep with you and then they say " i didnt know i had this" and put the blame on either you or the fact they didnt know. To me someone that tells me that have an STD is a great person who is honest. Believe it or not a lot people don't have the courage to tell someone so instead they just pass it on and pretend they didn't know and thats worse...

Answer 2

well if you know he has herpies then i suppose you oughta decide if thats a problem or not, if it is then stop dating him if its not then just ask him about it, i would lead into the convo kinda indirectly though, like bring up the subject of stds somehow then its easy to ask about it, if you act comfortable with the topic then people will be comfortable about talking about it. to me herpies is not a big deal, i wouldnt rule someone out because of it, it hink people make way to big of a stink about that particular std, so if i were you i would definatly pry into the subject to make sure thats all he had and that there was recent testing done. if not then there would be no sex untill tests were done.its your body so theres nothing wrong with any decision you make, you should never feel bad about requiring a guy to show you some proof that he has taken proper care and been tested for things,whatever he has you will have as well if the relationship becomes sexual.

Answer 3

i feel like you're asking the wrong questions. You said you know he had a prescription filled for valtrex. just be honest with yourself. How do you feel about herpes? Would you date someone with herpes? I am a single woman as well. a few years ago i ran into my highschool sweetheart. we were intimate and he told me afterwards that he had herpes, but that he wasn't having a breakout. I freaked out. I wish i would have known. I made an "emergency" appointment at my gyno and found out that i tested positive on a blood test. that was last year. i have never had an outbreak, and hope i never do. if i would have known i would have never chanced it, whether i cared about him or not, it's a painful disease. he should be honest with you. But-before you ask him, be prepared for his honesty. if he tells you he has herpes, would you date him or not?

Answer 4

Did you happen to also wonder if he had Shingles? Valtrex is also given for this as well as the common fever blisters that has nothing to do with std.......Lets not hang the man until you know the Dx first. That is what causes so many to "hide" illnesses being afraid or ashamed others may think.

Answer 5

No. yet, how do you recognize that they are sparkling? because of the fact they stated so? because of the fact they do no longer look to be promiscuous ?because of the fact they haven't any indications and look healthful? many STD's haven't any indications by any potential. genital warts (HPV) can't be clinically determined by potential of generic blood tests or urine tests. they only get clinically determined whilst they look '' ruin out'' which doesnt take place in many cases, and whilst they do take place, they are in many cases deep interior the vagina or interior the pee hollow of the male.. which makes it very very confusing to confirm! chlamydia which reasons infertility if left untreated and pelvic inflammation in an prolonged time, would not have any indications till its executed some dammage. use a condom besides! how do you think of those human beings have been given hiv and syphlis? they concept the guy became into sparkling. now and returned you're no longer even conscious which you have a ailment considering you have in elementary terms slept with somebody as quickly as, or considering you have experienced no indications.. yet its no longer an illustration of well being!

Answer 6

Long before you think of having an intimate relationship, then still use a condom because he could be lying. You need to see the test/paperwork and make sure it is done every 3 months.

Answer 7

you should ask him in a ironic way like omg have u seen those ppl with stds .. he'll probaly go like yea yea.. and u go like anyways when was the last time u tested with a giggle and thats how u get ur answer in a safe way without even gettin questions from him just get ur answer and laugh it off .. know what i mean ? jellybean ?

Answer 8

my advice is dont tell the person untill the approprate time cause what if u gus never get to that level ...u just told somebody that u not even with ur biz and that would been a wate of time if u guys get serious then tell them

Answer 9

Ask them whenever you feel like you are going to take the relationship to the a sexual level

Answer 10

I wouldn't even bring it up unless you plan on being sexually active with them. Only at that time is it appropriate.