I'm having my 21st birthday lunch or dinner get together with like 10+ people and I was wondering if I had to pay for everything? I'm pretty broke right now! But I don't want to be rude and let them pay. Should I give them party favors? What are you suppose to do?
2007-05-10 12:37:47 · 16 answers · asked by *T* 1 in Food & Drink ➔ Entertaining
There isn't really any hard and fast rule about the correct protocol. However, generally to make sure that there is no embarrassment at the restaurant, on invitations that I have done for events at restaurant is give them a range of price for the meals so it is implied that they will be paying.
"Main meal prices $15-$25".
Perhaps as a treat you could supply a cake for dessert or buy a round of drinks.
You only pay if you want to.
Have a superb night!
2007-05-14 00:00:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If invitations were sent the person who sent them should pay for what is described on the invitiation, because by sending the invitation you set an expectation that they should come.
If no invitations were sent, then everyone should pay for themselves because you have set an expectation that attendence is totally voluntary and you can't be expected to pay for everyone who shows up.
If the latter is true and your friends offer to pay for your meal, then you should accept it as a gift. I hope you didn't send invitations, if you did you're pretty much on the hook for everything you put on the invitation.
If you did send an invitation by mistake and because you are poor everyone pays for themselves, you should show them you appreciate them coming by buying them a round of drinks at the end of the night.
Party favors are not required for an adult's birthday party.
2007-05-10 12:42:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends - do you consider this a party? Is so, you should count on paying for everyone. If you usually go out to eat for friends' birthdays (these same friends) & you pay for the bday person's dinner, or each person pays for his/her own meal, then expect to do that.
2007-05-10 12:57:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who invited them? If you did the invite, usually you are expected to pay, or at least pay for your own. You probably should make it clear up front that you expect everyone to pay for themselves though, if that's the way it is going to be.
Usually, among my friends and the people I work with, we usually pay for ourselves and then everyone chips in to pay for the birthday boy/girl's meal.
In my group, party favors are not required, but if someone finds a cute thing that goes with the theme (for instance, a huge blow-up p*nis) then that would be cool *LOL*
2007-05-10 12:42:56 · answer #4 · answered by tallcowboy0614 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They should each pay their own, and each chip in to pay for yours. Just be clear up front that everyone is paying their own tab. Instead of a party favor, write them each a really nice thank you note and say something special about them. That will make them happier than a party favor I think.
2007-05-10 12:43:37 · answer #5 · answered by Genie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Sometimes the friends invite the bdayperson, sometimes the bday person pays all, sometimes everyone his/her's. See what happens when you get ready to pay. Usually it happened to me that i invite my friends and then they split my expenses... After that I invite everyone for a drink but there are only 3 or 4 people
2007-05-10 13:03:07 · answer #6 · answered by hannabanana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're planning the party, so that you've the luxury of creating plans something you may locate the money for to host. in case you may not purchase a meal for 20 people, invite them for espresso or brunch or tea or and so on. at present fairly anybody is counting pennies - i'd hate to decline a birthday invitation from a sturdy buddy, yet when it comes with a twenty greenback value ticket, i will say no. i'm ok ingesting lower priced at residing house, and that i will't locate the money for a eating position meal.
2016-10-18 06:57:09 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you initiated the get together, you pay. It is the same as if you invited people to your home for your birthday. Would you expect them to pay then. If you can't afford a luncheon or dinner, meet somewhere for drinks.
2007-05-10 18:44:35 · answer #8 · answered by Pat C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never go to a birhtday lunch/dinner and expect the b-day person to pay. It's YOUR day and you shouldn't have to worry about everyone else. Just make sure everyone nows that you are not picking up the tab.
2007-05-10 12:41:39 · answer #9 · answered by silly girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Among my friends, usually the ones whose birthday it is NOT, each pay for their own meal and all tip in to cover the cost of the birthday girl's meal. The birthday person shouldn't have to pay for everyones.
2007-05-10 12:40:50 · answer #10 · answered by Marvelissa VT 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋