I have a friend who has been HIV positive for 6 years. When she confided in me i was extremely supportive. My issue right now is that from then until now, she still has sex with a lot of men. She does not seem to be concerned with them catching the horrific disease. Every week she is telling about some guy she just had sex with, although she claims the sex is protected i feel as if nothing is ever 100%. I think she is in denial after all of these years. How do i explain to her that this is not right and she should not be having sex as often as she is with these men.
2007-04-22 08:14:04 · 10 answers · asked by nicolo0073 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
If she were having sex with them unprotected then you could threaten to report her to the police since it's considered attempted murder. But to be honest there isn't much you can do since she is using protection.
I would just make her aware of the risks of retaliation that could sometimes be fatal if one of her partners found out she was HIV positive. Tell her that it's important that she let them know, giving them the option of making an educated decision.
There are some triffling men and women out there that will knowing have sex with HIV positive individuals and not care whether they're protected or not.
2007-04-24 05:50:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You tell her while you sympathize with her situation, she is being irresponsible about the way she is handling her disease. Tell her the chances of passing it along to someone unsuspecting is incredibly selfish and you can not condone her behaviour. Tell her while you know it is tough to change her lifestyle, she has to do the right thing, here. She should at least warn her partners ahead of time. I would also tell her, that while she has your full support and you are happy to help her in anyway you can, it is a two way street. And you do not feel comfortable supporting her when she has such little regard for the rest of human kind. While the chances of a woman passing the HIV virus to a man is not near as great as it is for a man to pass it to a woman, the chance is still there. And she needs to understand that she could be handing these men and their future offspring a death sentence by being so careless. This is not an easy thing for you to say, but honestly, how will you feel if you find out one of her casual partners has contracted the disease from her?? Can you live with yourself when you knew full well she was acting irresponsibly? Tell her how you feel, and try to get her to change her ways. Offer to attend counseling with her on living with HIV, or spend more time with her so she will have less time to pick up these men.
2007-04-22 15:24:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Does she tell the men that she is HIV? If not she should. It's not fair, sort of truth in advertising.
Unless you can prove she does not use condems there is probably not a lot you can do. Most states have laws about HIV and AIDS victims must not knowingly expose, unprotected sex, any person.
2007-04-22 15:20:24 · answer #3 · answered by The Queen Has Spoken 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you should tell your friend, what does she really get out of these casual sexual relationships, i think she is in denial and i think she probably doesn't wanna be alone in her traumatic experience that she does this 2 feel completed to almost feel wanted by someone and she either wants to spread it to men because she doesn't wanna be the only one, you've got to tell her and be completely honest especially if you care about her because she can get even more disease that will eat at her immune system and take her life easier, a disease like that should make you change your life not destroy it even more..
2007-04-22 15:23:18 · answer #4 · answered by InPhaMous Kiid DiiMey 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Nicolo,
Have you ever been present at each sexual encounter your friend had??? I'm assuming you must because what else would give you the idea she is having unprotected sex....If you haven't been present then it seems to me that you are simply being malicious...who the hell needs enemy's with friends like you.....Get you own sex life and stop being so damn jealous of your friend....
2007-04-23 01:26:16 · answer #5 · answered by toenails 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
QUARANTINE! Or, do like a person I know did and post her picture on the net with a disclaimer: This girl has HIV! Avoid sex!
2007-04-22 15:17:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Unfortunally if she is not truthful with these men that she is having sex with , shes playing a dangerous game with thier lives. Its very irresponisble. There is relaly not much you can do,. It is her that has to take the effort and tell these guys before she sleep with them. It should be their choice, not hers.
2007-04-22 18:49:37 · answer #7 · answered by purplelove 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I have male friend and he on the same *hit your friend on .I know sure that there is not always a condom use. He also admit to sex act with two down low guys.He just don't care!
2007-04-22 16:29:50 · answer #8 · answered by holla 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Report her to the local health department or the police.
Failure to disclose a disease is criminal behaviour and will only serve to worsen the epidemic.
Where I live, her behaviour is considered aggravated sexual assault.
2007-04-22 15:32:36 · answer #9 · answered by guru 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
no
2007-04-22 15:17:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋