Hello, I'm 17 andI have been with boyfriend now for Almost three years. We have been sexually active for one year and 5 months. During that time I have only had one Orgasm. Its can be really fusterating for both of us,especially since he has one everytime. He is my first but I'm not his. .. And yes we use potection and I'm on birth control. Please don't lecture me about my age please just help me out.. Thank You very much
2006-12-19 18:48:54 · 9 answers · asked by nire89 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
Thanks for all the Advice.. Just to make it clear...
I was a virgin until him. He was not.
2006-12-19 19:05:16 · update #1
He does try to stimulate me with foreplay
2006-12-20 11:28:28 · update #2
Orgasms for woman is better attained by stimulating clitoris or G-Spot.
Clitoris can be stimulated heavenly orally(if u have not done it u missed the best part of life)
G-Spot can stimulated using fingers, during intercourse doing in doggy style helps.
woman on top has a 98% chance for climaxing.
psychological part plays an important role in orgasm in women. So safety, security and levels of inhibitions can affect you women great time. So when you are doin it just do it n don think of anything else....good luck.
And one more thing seems the guy is already under a lot of pressure...so donot over load him...he..ll definitely get better with time...just encourage and reinforce him.
2006-12-19 19:02:15 · answer #1 · answered by Lord Of Lust 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't have an orgasm mainly through vaginal sex. Sometimes seeing X-rated sex movies,kissing, and oral sex as a foreplay can help you get you an orgasm, it helped me. If your boyfriend doesn't give you an orgasm, don't lie to him and fake it. You will never get an orgasm. TELL HIM! Tell him that he's not turning you on and he has to try something different even if he has to read a "how to" book or ask his friends how to do it. Just because he's been with other girls, doesn't make him a great lover. He probably didn't give them an orgasm. Tell him that you're not going to give him anymore until he starts satisfying both of you. "What's good for the goose, is good for the gander" My husband always see to it that I have an orgasm and he likes the fact that he can do it. I did have to guide him on what and where it feels good.
2006-12-20 03:21:59 · answer #2 · answered by nannygoat 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It can be very difficult for a woman to have an orgasm during intercourse. Have him go down on you until you feel like your ready, the get on top of him. This way you can control the rhythm and do what feels best to you.
2006-12-20 16:24:53 · answer #3 · answered by knihelpu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good job on being safe. He obviously does not know how to use his tongue and fingers. Foreplay is the way to get you excited. Relax and enjoy yourself. Have him lick and gently rub your clitoris. He has to stimulate you so you can enjoy the ride better.
2006-12-20 13:59:59 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had about 5 orgasms in the 12 years I've had sex. It sucks so bad. I don't think we are abnormal though. We just have to experiment with ourselves & find out what does get us off. Tell him. Incorperate toys into the bedroom. That might help.
PS - I've heard that 90% of women don't have orgasms from vaginal sex alone.
2006-12-20 02:51:19 · answer #5 · answered by IMHO 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some people just don't have orgasms from intercourse. You may have to try something else with more direct stimulation. Good luck!
2006-12-20 02:52:27 · answer #6 · answered by MARIE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is harder for the woman to reach a climax. get him to stimulate you with his finger or tongue, help him fing the right spot. after you reach a climax the sex is unbeliveable. I have learned this much after 26 years of marrage
2006-12-20 02:55:35 · answer #7 · answered by sickand tired 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax, this is more likely due to inexperience, (generally speaking......his). Give it time, and patience and communicate your feelings.......guide him, he most likely will not object.
Sometimes you litterally have to point them at it.
Thankfully life is long.
Most figure it out eventually.
2006-12-20 02:53:59 · answer #8 · answered by Norton N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because you are dealing with feelings of guilt......that's obvious from your lines of "please don't lecture me yadda yadda." Tell your mom and deal with the bigger issue at hand.
Or perhaps it's time to get married. If you are responsible enough for sex, you must be responsible enough for a family, right?
2006-12-20 05:15:22 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs.Fine 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋