What is a tactful way of finding out if your partner has an STD before having sex?

Answer 1

If you are having sex with someone you should be far enough along in the relationship to ask the person and trust their answer. If not reconsider your decision of sleeping with them, or use a condom.

Answer 2

The only tactful way is by going to your local clinic. There is no "easy" way to be sure whether or not a person is free of STD's. Life is too short and there are a lot of not so honest people in the world. Don't take chances and catch something.

Answer 3

it may not seem tactful but you have to ask. think about your life, your future. there are so many diseases out there. you can't look at a person and tell if they have an STD. if the person wants to be with you they won't mind having this conversation. and think twice about having sex with anyone who doesn't want to talk about it.

Answer 4

There really is no easy way to find that out without sounding crass. Your best bet would be to 1) Know your partner well enough that it wouldn't be an issue (ex: it would have come up already), or 2) Just use protection.

Answer 5

there is no tactful way of finding out

Answer 6

Whip out your Clean test that has been done very recently, and ask to see his.

Either the relationship will be great. Or go no further.

BUT I SAY THIS LOUD AND CLEAR
BETTER SAFE THAN SORRY...

Answer 7

ASK THEM!!! If you can't have an honest conversation with a person, you should not be having sex with them.

Answer 8

Nope. Inspect their junk. I mean with tweezers & a magnifying glass. And make them get tested. Too many dirties these days.

Answer 9

In today's world there is none.....Just ask and then make sure you still use a condom......and sometimes that is not enough........have a STD...then use the mouth condom for oral sex, you can get it in your mouth too and it spreads........





Estimating how many STD cases occur is not a simple or straightforward task. First, most STDs can be "silent," causing no noticeable symptoms. These asymptomatic infections can be diagnosed only through testing. Unfortunately, routine screening programs are not widespread, and social stigma and lack of public awareness concerning STDs often inhibits frank discussion between health care providers and patients about STD risk and the need for testing.

-- ASHA. Sexually Transmitted Diseases in America: How Many Cases and at What Cost? December 1998.


More than half of all people will have an STD at some point in their lifetime. [1]


The estimated total number of people living in the US with a viral STD is over 65 million. [2] Every year, there are at least 15 million new cases of STDs, some of which are curable. [2,3]


More than $8 billion is spent each year to diagnose and treat STDs and their complications. This figure does not include HIV. [4]


In a national survey of US physicians, fewer than one-third routinely screened patients for STDs. [5]


Less than half of adults ages 18 to 44 have ever been tested for an STD other than HIV/AIDS.


Each year, one in four teens contracts an STD. [6]


One in two sexually active persons will contact an STD by age 25. [7]


About half of all new STDs in 2000 occurred among youth ages 15 to 24. [8] The total estimated costs of these nine million new cases of these STDs was $6.5 billion, with HIV and human papillomavirus (HPV) accounting for 90% of the total burden. [9]


Of the STDs that are diagnosed, only some (gonorrhea, syphilis, chlamydia, hepatitis A and B) are required to be reported to state health departments and the CDC.


One out of 20 people in the United States will get infected with hepatitis B (HBV) some time during their lives. [10] Hepatitis B is 100 times more infectious than HIV. [11]


Approximately half of HBV infections are transmitted sexually. [12] HBV is linked to chronic liver disease, including cirrhosis and liver cancer.


Hepatitis A and hepatitis B are the only two vaccine-preventable STDs.


It is estimated that as many as one in four Americans have genital herpes, a lifelong (but manageable) infection, yet up to 90 percent of those with herpes are unaware they have it. [13] With more than 50 million adults in the US with genital herpes and up to 1.6 million new infections each year, some estimates suggest that by 2025 up to 40% of all men and half of all women could be infected. [14,15,16]


Over 6 million people acquire HPV each year, and by age 50, at least 80 percent of women will have acquired genital HPV infection. [17] Most people with HPV do not develop symptoms. Some researchers believe that HPV infections may self-resolve and may not be lifelong like herpes. [2]


Cervical cancer in women, while preventable through regular Paps, is linked to high-risk types of HPV.


Each year, there are almost 3 million new cases of chlamydia, many of which are in adolescents and young adults. [8] The CDC recommends that sexually active females 25 and under should be screened at least once a year for chlamydia, even if no symptoms are present.


About two-thirds of young females believe doctors routinely screen teens for chlamydia. [18] However, in 2003 only 30% of women 25 and under with commercial health care plans and 45% in Medicaid plans were screened for chlamydia. [19]


At least 15 percent of all American women who are infertile can attribute it to tubal damage caused by pelvic inflammatory disease (PID) , the result of an untreated STD. Consistent condom use reduces the risk of recurrent PID and related complications: significantly, women who reported regular use of condoms in one study were 60 percent less likely to become infertile. [20]


Consistent condom use provides substantial protection against the acquisition of many STDs, including statistically significant reduction of risk against HIV, chlamydia, gonorrhea, herpes, and syphilis. [21,22,23]


Some studies show that, for those who already have a clinically apparent genital HPV infection, using condoms promotes the regression of HPV lesions in both women and men. [24,25] http://www.ashastd.org/learn/learn_statistics.cfm


GET TESTED http://www.ashastd.org/
Single dose therapy for treatment of oral herpes (cold sores) also approved etc


TEEN SEXUAL HEALTH: http://www.ashastd.org/teens/teens_overview.cfm

Answer 10

yeh get really close up n have a sniff around! or you could say "have you got an STI you wanna share with me? just curious..."