I just treated (sucessfully) some vaginal bacteria but still I feel kinda sensitive.I'm experiencing a new relationship,and I'm feeling that we r getting close to having an intercourse.I'm not feeling comfortable (yet)to let him go down on me..should I tell him the real reason?how would u guys feel?
2006-09-10 08:35:51 · 6 answers · asked by Lana 3 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
I would be honest. Tell him you had treatment for an infection that was not sexually transmitted. If he really cares for you he will understand. If he turns his back on you all he wants is sex. If you find it hard to tell him about your treatment..just keep saying "no"! I would have a repeat pap done to make sure the problem is cleared up or if you need another treatment since you are still feeling senstive. Honesty is best even though sometimes it hurts!
2006-09-10 08:49:08 · answer #1 · answered by alaskancookie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A bacterial infection takes a while to clear up. If you are 100% sure that you are ok, then its cool to go and have sex with him. Here is the thing....Vaginal bacteria is contagious. you will keep passing it back and forth and you as a women do not want that uncomfortablness again. Its almost like yeast infection.
As far as starting this relationship, do not start off on the wrong foot. Communication and honesty is the best thing. Just let him know you are not sure where it started (vaginal bacteria can be cause from not wearing cotton panties, not wiping properly, wearing tight clothing, or just iritation from soap, etc..) and it takes a while to clear up. It is not a STD or anything serious and its curable, its just part of being a women.
2006-09-10 11:02:17 · answer #2 · answered by Luvhonor&Cherish 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it depends on what kind it was. But on the other hand as long as the infection isn't present anymore then there should be no reason for you to have to tell him. Plus, you could have him give you oral because you treated it already.
2006-09-11 11:39:50 · answer #3 · answered by Mermaid 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal for people to feel sensitive about this subject. If it is treated, and not contagious...then why tell him. If it is not going to affect him then it really is your business. I would just tell him you are not ready to go to that level in your relationship. However if you have something that is contagious then it is your responsibility to inform your partner.
2006-09-10 09:41:28 · answer #4 · answered by Maggie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, your frankness would kill the relationship at this juncture and a little wait will provide you succor from your illness as well as it would give time to flourish your relationship.
2006-09-10 08:49:29 · answer #5 · answered by doctor2 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
only if u really trust him & don't have to worry about him getting squemish; i'd say just tell him to wait a little while cause u're not ready for that yet.
2006-09-10 08:39:29 · answer #6 · answered by lady sixx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋