Now, i've never been in this situation but, if i had been i would give the person some leeway on the issue, and some time to "splain" like Ricky says from *I love Lucy*.
2006-07-06 11:40:36 · 17 answers · asked by 1broWnMermaid 2 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
It would depend on the situation and the person.
Some STDs can lie dormant, like herpes, or the person could be asymptomatic for an STD they have had for a while. About 75% of people who are diagnosed with Chlamydia report no symptoms. Also females with Gonorrhea often do not have symptoms of infection
2006-07-06 22:30:20 · answer #1 · answered by eunosgirl 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It is both partners' responsibility to get tested before you become intimate. This is a good way to avoid this problem. And if you did this, then you would know if he cheated on you.
Ignorance is not bliss. It is better to know before you get involved. Don't take any chances.
In the case you describe, it would be your own fault for not checking before hand and/or not protecting yourself, so if he got it before you two were together then he is not to blame. You may as well stay with him because no one else is going to want to risk getting exposed to an STD. Once you know you have it, it is your responsibility to tell your partner before you get intimate.
The other question would be "how do you know that he didn't know he had it?"
2006-07-06 11:49:20 · answer #2 · answered by Sara B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unknowingly, yes, I would stay with that person. There are many sexually transmitted infections that have no symptoms, and there's HPV, which there's no way to test for in men so there's no way for men to even know they're infected unless they have visible warts.
If the person had contracted a sexually transmitted disease and KNEW about it and given it to me, then that's abuse and I would not stay in that relationship.
2006-07-06 13:01:41 · answer #3 · answered by athena1213 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with him. He didnt know and she had a choice not to use protection or ask him to get a test....she made the same mistake as he did with the person he caught it from. The key word here is 'unknowingly'
2006-07-06 12:02:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some STD's are impossible not to detect on a male and some are difficult to know such as AIDS, chlamydia, and syphilis. Others are easily detected by a male. So it depends on what it is. Please don't buy the toilet seat story (only plausible with crabs). The decision is yours and a condom will be necessary and should have been used. We do tend to trust those we shouldn't. I hope this helped some. Good luck.
2006-07-06 12:06:01 · answer #5 · answered by firestarter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with you on that.. he would definitely have some "splainin" to do!!
but it depends how long you have been in the relationship, the type of relationship you have and gosh... how long did they know they've had it... if they didnt know well then i guess there was nothing either of you couldve done...
except askin your partner to show you results from a recent full examination (for other STDs) and blood work results (for HIV) prior to engaging in sexual activity.
2006-07-06 11:52:52 · answer #6 · answered by the queen is here 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they didn't know they had it, and they unknowingly gave it to you, AND it wasn't a result of lacivious behavior (ie: cheating, generally being skanky) and was from the past -- and the relationship was fine otherwise -- i'd let them explain themselves and i might stay with them. doesn't mean i wouldn't be livid for polluting my body with a STD....BUT, BUT if you're responsible partners, y'all get checked out before you start getting booty call on a regular basis...and it would have prevented the problem in the first place.
if they were a jerk, didn't seem upset about it, or otherwise was being a dipshi* about it, then i'd put him/her in the eject seat.
2006-07-06 11:50:10 · answer #7 · answered by emm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends how he got it. If it is a disease such and venereal warts, he could have unknowingly had it a long time. If he has been patronizing prostitutes or another woman and got it, I would consider leaving him.
2006-07-06 11:47:02 · answer #8 · answered by ringocox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they didn't know they had it and it came from a previous relationship, then I'd probably stay with them. Now if they cheated on you and caught something and didn't tell you, then I'd dump them.
2006-07-06 11:44:20 · answer #9 · answered by pamela_d_99 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you've been with them for a long long time and then you get an STD . . . dump them!
if you've recently started dating, and you get an STD . . . . let them splain!
2006-07-06 11:44:29 · answer #10 · answered by answrwoman77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋