I'm 16 and just found out im pregnant,if my mum knew she would kill me...what do i do?

Question

well i found out i am pregnant and i monly 16 and if my mum knew shed kill me...what should i do?...any help please?

well it was my first time and we were using a rubber i dont understand how...i am 9-10 weeks in as well...

ok look yes my bf knows and he says he has no intention on leaving me we've been togather for 4 years and hes been very supportive i took everyones advice and i told my mother...she said she would help me with whatever and she was alot happyer then i thought shed be couse she was happy to be a grandmother...ive decided to keep the baby also...

Answer 1

I'm a mom, and I can tell you that yes, your mom is going to be upset with you for all the obvious reasons. BUT - she is going to be MORE upset (and VERY hurt) if you don't tell her.

I'm not going to tell you to have an abortion or not. I have my own views on it, and I feel very strongly about my stance. I will tell you though that it is a serious medical proceedure, and it's one that you will not just forget about, so you really should not be getting advice from a bunch of strangers on the internet (yes, me included ;-) ), you should be talking to your mom about this.

Believe me, as upset as she is going to be, she will get over it a lot quicker if you go to her and tell her and talk to her about it.

The ONLY exception to telling your mom - and doing it TODAY - is if you TRULY (based on past physical abuse) believe she will physically attack and harm you. In which case you and your bf need to go to his parents, or to another adult family member that you can talk to about this who can help you.

I'm sorry, but there is no "easy fix to this" Either you give birth to this child in which case you will have it to raise or it will be adopted by someone (and they may or may not look you up yrs from now), and you may or may not wonder about what kind of person the baby turns out to be, or you are now raising a child, and your life will change drastically.

Or, you abort this child, and that will be something you can't ever undo, and, frankly, you won't even be able to "just forget about it", because every time you go in for your annual pap they are going to ask you how many times you have been pg, and what the result of that pg was (delivery/csection, miscarriage, or abortion.) Not to mention the thoughts and regrets you could end up having down the road. (This is assuming that if you have an abortion things go well physically - it is a serious medical proceedure, and there is always a chance that something could go wrong during it.)

As I said, as much as you probably wish this could all just go away, I REALLY REALLY REALLY think you should go talk to your mom - TODAY!

Answer 2

My daughter is pregnant as well. She is 16. The way she went about telling her father and I was not the best way but she left a long letter on my pillow long with the doctr's results and the prescription for her prenatal vitamins. She probably did the right thing because she went to spend a few days with her friend and let us absorb the news.

When we finally spoke with her, we asked her what she wanted to do. We let her know all the options available to her, but she is set on having this baby. It is a huge responsibility raising a child when you are only a child yourself.

Growing up fast is a hard thing to do, but if having a baby is what you want, then it is something you will have to do. We have decided to be supportive and help her in any way we can. She in turn, has to do her part by staying in school and gaining a diploma as well as working at least part time to support the everyday things the baby will need.

Your mom will be upset, but eventually everything works out the way it should. I feel for you..... Good luck honey.

There is a book out there called, "What to expect when you're expecting." I would get it if you choose to have this baby.

Answer 3

Hi there.

Firstly I dont think your mum would kill you, she might be very angry etc but once she's calmed down she'll be fine, I too was 16 when I fell pregnant with my first child (he's now 12 yrs old) try not to panic, if you dont feel you can tell your mum try speaking to an aunt, older sister or even a teacher, someone you trust, maybe then they can help you tell your mum, you really do need to tell someone as soon as possible as you need to get some medical care, ie antenatal to make sure you and the baby are doing ok. Good luck with everything. :o)

Answer 4

If you know an adult you can tell like a school counselor tell them and ask them to help you tell your Mom.
Yes your Mom will likely not be very happy but hopefully she will support you. I was 17 when I got pregnant and was scared to tell my mom as well. She did not kill be but we were not close and I did not want to tell her anything anymore because of her reaction and the way she shut me out and did not support me through it. I am 26 now and am close to my mom again we both realized we made mistakes and have forgiven each other.

I Hope things work out well for you. Congratulations on being a Mommy babies are a wonderful blessing. I will pray for you.

Answer 5

Firstly you have some tough decisions to make you need to tell your mum so she can help and support you.I found out i was pregnant at 16 and i was terrified to tell my parents i thought they would kill me especially my dad i had to get my mum to tell him but when they found out they were very understanding helpful and supportive and my partner stood by me. I'm 23 now me and my partner are still together with too sons now. Just talk to your mum and have a good think about what you want but realise when you have a child it is hard work and a massive responsibility

Answer 6

hi this is her BF we were using a rubber at the time neither one of us understand how she got pregnant using one...weve been togather for 4 years and just becouse of this i have no intention on leaving her and i will be there for her in whatever she choses to do another tihng i saw some poeple considering when her mother was pregnant with her...shes adopted so...that also gives you some general help here...

Answer 7

Don't get an abortion. She should have already have spoken to you about birth control, etc. I don't understand why you aren't using any if you are not ready to have a child and worried about what your Mom will do. Do the right thing and tell her. If you can't keep the baby, then give it up for adoption to a good family.

Answer 8

Well, does your bf knows that you are pregnant? If so an he is willing to stay with you, then yoiu should both tell her, you didnt make tha baby yourself, If not then do it yourself, at first she will be mad, but she is your mom, she will not understand, but she will try to help you out if you are going to be by yourself, Parents are always gonna be there for you, and besides, you are afraid she will kill you, abortiion would do the same, and everything in this world has consequenses... NOW FACE THEM... everything will be easier once you tell her!!!!!
GOOD LUCK, AND GOD BLESS YOU!!!!!!

Answer 9

even if you're afraid to tell your mom, you really really really need to tell her. I'm sure she'll be really angry at first, but she'll have to get over it. Even though she'll get mad, you have to be honest. It'll be better if she finds out sooner rather than later. also, i dont think you should get an abortion..maybe it happened for a reason and maybe having the baby will end up being a great thing for you. Your child could end up being one of the best people in your life.

Answer 10

Kill her first. Don't be anyone's victim. This is self-defense.

It would help tremendously if you can make a video of her coming at you when you tell her you're pregnant - that way the jury will have a hard time convicting you, and you can get on without your murderous mother in your way.