cost,cake kool-aid! I asked this questin b4 just want more input?

Question

I was wondering how much the average wedding cost? And how much it too much to pay for rings? Oh and this really isn't a question I don't guess but someone please tell me I'm not the only one who thinks a yellow box cake is just a little tacky, my bf says when we get married he wants the cake the be a yellow box cake!
He would like the frosting to be Pilbury chocolate frosting! Now he's talking about haveing Kool-aid too, I think I'm not going to be talking to him about the wedding anymore I'm just going to do all the planning myself. I HATE KOOL-AID!!!!

And for those who feel like my b/f didn't want to help with the wedding in the first place, you're wrong he feels it should be a 50/50 experience, because its not just my day its his day too. He wants this to be perfect for the both of us.

Answer 1

Discuss the wedding plans together.. and come up with something that makes you both happy. weddings can range from a few thousand to 20 - 30 thousand, depending on what you do. i think we got away with only spending about 5,000, my husband and i were just married a month ago. neither of us really wanted to have anything big and fancy.. just not our syle... we spent more on the honeymoon than the wedding... all of it fell in the 5,000 though... but we had a barbeque, ice cream cake, a punch bowl, an ice cream sundae bar, and dancing! it was relaxed, fun, and how we wanted it to be.

the most important thing isn't necesarily what everyone else finds "appropriate" or the way it is "supposed to be" but what you and your future husband agree on together, that will make you both happy. maybe if you want to do something fancier, have a cake made that is yellow cake with chocolate frosting but still fancy? i'm sure you can find SOMEONE that will do it.. or maybe, have the traditional wedding cake, and also the cake he wants. I'm sure you can find a way to serve the koolaid that looks fancy.. use pretty glasses and garnish them with fruit, or colored sugar. find fancy punch bowls or pitchers to pour it from. and even if you don't like kool aid, you can have more than one drink choice!

good luck, and try not to get to caught up in the details..try and remember the real importance of the day. The cake and the kool aid are not the most important thing you know?

and one last thing.. on how much is too much to spend, my husband and i decided to keep within our means for buying rings. we actually were buying wedding rings from the time we got engaged until we were married. what i mean by this is, don't go into debt too much. it sucks to start out a life together with no money, and lots of credit cards and loans to pay off. we have no debt from the wedding, vs his sisters whose husbands were paying off just the engagement ring for at least a year after the wedding....

again, it's all about not getting too caught up in the details

Answer 2

I totally agree with the person who said not to start the wedding off in debt. I am in the middle of planning my wedding and I have a budget of $5000. I decided to buy my own dress so that I can get something that I want without the hassle of worrying about what it will take away from for the wedding. If he is serious about the cake, get him, no, make him a grooms cake for his bachelor party. Tell him he can have kool aid too. As for the rings, the standard is based on montly income but just go with whatever you want. If it ends up being out of a gum ball machine, then so be it. It is a symbol of your love, not everyone elses. One pointer though. If the rings were not bought as a set, you will probably have to get a custom made one to fit. Get one that compliments your engagement ring. You will know when you find it.

Answer 3

well, i spent between 2 and 3 thousand on my wedding which is considered cheap, but everyone loved it! i got so many compliments on how nice and easy going it was. people werent afraid to kick back and have a good time. my mom made the food for the reception and it was great becuase there was some of everything so everyone got to eat something they enjoyed. and whats wrong with kool-aid or a box cake? i served kfc chicken at my wedding. my husband works there so we got chicken for cheap. just remember that being a bridezilla will only cause you disappointment in the end becuase no wedding goes 100% perfect and people dont want to be there if they cant have a good time. also remember its his wedding too so try to make a compromise on things. if you just take control then it wont be a day he enjoys and thats not a good start to a marriage.

Answer 4

In the US today, the average wedding cost is between $20k to $25k, including the honeymoon (at about $5k). You have got to be kidding about the yellow box cake and kool-aid! Are you sure he wasn't just having a bit of fun with you? As far as the rings are concerned, I think the rule of thumb for engagement rings is 2-3 months salary. The actual wedding rings should be considerably cheaper, since they are usually just simple, unadorned bands without precious stones. The article I reference suggest that the bands average about $500 for both - Personally, considering the commitment and love they represent, I would think anything up to about $4-500 each is acceptable.

Answer 5

Since it is a shared day, let his groom cake be a yellow box cake. We have to learn to give a little even in the planning stages. A good cake decorator can work with the box bake and Mr. Pillsbury. And you don't have to drink the kool-aid dear, just have it in a punch bowl with some orange slice for the kids (if you invite kids).

Answer 6

As for the cost it varies....Are you doing everything yourself? If so its much much cheaper and way more stressful. A box cake? Maybe for his grooms cake! Give him whatever he wants for his cake and maybe put some koolaid on his grooms cake table to make him happy! it is his day too! But hes got to realize a bridal cake is suposed to be pretty and not everyone enjoys koolaid lol You should involve him in the planning though just not too much. lol

Answer 7

ok, you definitely don't have to follow the crowd on weddings. it is YOUR wedding after all. AND, considering the number one reason for a divorce revolves around money, it's best to NOT start out in 20K of debt! :)

i spent just over $1000 on my wedding. and it was rated the BEST wedding of the summer by all my friends and family. i don't expect everyone to be able to pull that off, but here are a few tips:

-engagement rings: you don't want a ring so expensive that it will put you into emotional chaos if you happen to lose it on the honeymoon. you can get the same quality wedding band (guys) for $45 as the $450 one with the savvy salesman. for your ring, you want something you LIKE! if you get off on having people admire your rock, you'll need something big. but seriously, that's not what this is all about. unique, elegant, cute--whatever fits you. instead of looking at WEDDING rings, look at anniversary rings. you'll get a one-of-a-kind ring without the price!

-cake: definitely shop around. a good cake is VERY important. in reno, the best cakes come from the casinos. they run around $200. you're wise to ignore your man when it comes to cake. :) a cake with a filling is a great hit. strawberry custard is super tasty. and then make SURE you get a whipped-cream based frosting (as opposed to a buttercream frosting). your guests will actually eat the cake if it has a good frosting. :) try to sample cakes before ordering.

-sodas go over really well at a wedding. especially if you have kids or guests traveling after the party. figure that everyone is going to have 2 sodas. pitchers of ice water should be on every table. coffee is inexpensive but a necessity for older guests. if you have a younger crowd--do coffee but add a few fun creamers.

-depending on your sense of humor, you may want to get your man his OWN silly cake. :) yellow and pillsbury--throw in the kool-aid for him, too. ;)

-flowers: take a stand, and use silk flowers. you can buy a SEXY bouquet at places like world market, pier 1, and local boutiques. these will be much cheaper than fresh flowers, and you can keep it forever. my bouquet adorns my bathroom right now!

-make sense: only do things that make sense at your wedding! party favors? most guests leave them behind, as they don't have room for one more bottle of bubbles! instead of spending all that time and money on favors, opt for another few bottles of champagne. THAT will be appreciated. ;)

-invitations: you've probably already taken care of these. go simple, but elegant. NOT frilly and elegant. we're in a new era where saving paper is appreciated by your guests, more than 3 envelopes invoking their presence. go with sensical instead of traditional!

i have LOTS more tips. email me for specifics: [e-mail]

congrats and best of wishes!
gertie

Answer 8

Man at my wedding Im handing out ho-ho cakes and little hug juices and the rings coming from a 25 cent machine and the flowers are gonna be fake so i can decorate my house with them later on.

Answer 9

"I was wondering how much the average wedding cost?" 20-30 thousand dollars.

"And how much it too much to pay for rings? " If you go into serious debt over it, you've paid too much.

"I think I'm not going to be talking to him about the wedding anymore I'm just going to do all the planning myself." Perfect. I think that's what he wanted anyway. : )

Answer 10

Give your husband to be his only table of treats. Kool-Aid, box cake, etc. People will laugh, and all will be fine.