My friends think i'm nice, friendly, sociable, like to laugh and happy. The thing is that they've all got men and I haven't because i'm just seen as overweight by men. I've tried in person, online dating, pen pals. Can't win anyways. Depression is what i'm feeling about this. It's not fair as i'm not a slob. I exercise, walk, swim, am active, eat properly now cause I have to lose weight. People are too quick to judge, don't you think?
2007-12-27 21:49:03 · 13 answers · asked by ♥ Shell ♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm struggling with my weight (and depression off and on) too, though, unlike you, I need to exercise more and continue to improve on my eating habits. It's a battle, but one well worth fighting.
I haven't had a girlfriend in about 3 years now. It sucks. I know the feeling -- everyone has someone but you(or at least it feels that way). But there are a lot of single people out there. A lot!
It sounds like you're on the right path. Keep it up! Have faith -- not in a higher power necessarily -- but in yourself.
Good luck!
2007-12-27 21:56:35 · answer #1 · answered by Brad G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am overweight and always have been but i get men chat me up and i have had a steady boyfriend for 3 years Alot of men like bigger women but having no confidence in yourself isn't very attractive.
If you are feeling depressed go to your doctor and talk to them and ask about your weight as well.
Yes people are very quick to judge just ignore them and concentrate on the people who see the good in you :)
2007-12-28 06:00:40 · answer #2 · answered by lallybagwash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately we live in a judgemental world. But there are lots of people out there who see beyond apperance. There is one truth to the matter though. If you are not happy with yourself than you have to do something about it. People who are confident in themselfes are seen beyond there appearance, but for your health get help whever you can. See a doctor to get your thyroid checked. See a nutricionist to get help in understanding the dynamics of food. I had a friend who thought she was doing everything right only to find out that she was eating twice the portions she should. She truly didn't see anything wrong. She also ate alot of pasta, macaroni and cheese and potatoes, all of which turn to sugar when digested. Education is the key to empowerment. You can do. Best wishes
2007-12-28 06:10:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dudeeeeeeee
Don't worry, if you are eating healthy and exercising you will surely loose weight.
If you are being good to your body you shouldn't feel this way. Loosing weight takes time, and clearly effort, but if you have the right motivation you WILL get there.
We all get depressed, whether it be about our weight, face, hair, personality etc. But sometimes we've just got to forget about our looks and just work on ourselves and not worry about the present but worry about the future.
If you are friendly, nice sociable etc you will do great in life, don't let this get you down.
<3
2007-12-28 05:57:41 · answer #4 · answered by b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get depressed over silly things. There are people in far worse conditions then you are. Think about the kids in Palestine and Iraq. Think about Africans. Think about homeless people who have to sleep on the street. Go see a dietition (spelling) You're probably eating healthy but not in a good way.
Good-luck
2007-12-28 05:55:15 · answer #5 · answered by Aseel B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex gf had horrendous issues with her physical self, and caused the relationship to self-destruct. It's possible to convince yourself that 5+5=6, and your body language also reflects what you think about yourself. She was overweight but really cute.
You know, people are factory-built to quickly judge. If you see those TV programs where animals either choose or completely reject their mates - we're not that different. Souls share our physical self.
2007-12-28 09:24:17 · answer #6 · answered by mmarrero 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah ive been there...all my friends have boyfriends and it sucks because you're the only one who is single...but let me give you an advice...don't put yourself down just because your overweight and besides there are more important matters to worry other than boys so don't stress yourself...have patience...or start working out now..if you reach your ideal weight...the boys who ignore you will see you as a different person...but don't speak to them...give them a dose of their own medicine hehehhe works all the time...im not saying to be mean to them just let them feel whats it like to being ignore...you see my point?? so go out work out now and have a balance diet :)
2007-12-28 05:59:06 · answer #7 · answered by hanna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes they are quick to judge these days. But do not get depressed you are healthy! if you believe your weight is a problem it can be easily fixed, its really no big deal. Find a man who loves you for who you are
2007-12-28 05:52:57 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ MISS YELLOW DIAMOND★☺♀ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to a physician or dietician. They might be able to suggest something effective if you're willing.
Yes, generally a romantic interest is initiated though physically appearance then the personality comes into play. not always.
2007-12-28 05:54:06 · answer #9 · answered by Betsy Boop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep thats is a defenate true people are too quick to judge.
i hate people that judge other people who they dont know.
just because of what they look like...its what on the inside that counts the most and peoples personality who cares about hot skinny girls who look like everyone else.
just dont worry about them =]
its there loss if people dont like you cos they judge you cos of your weight.
thats just stupid.
forget them people who judge.
that should make you happier your healthy on the inside and them people wouldnt even know that so they can get beeped.
2007-12-28 06:42:05 · answer #10 · answered by skye_dez_smiles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋