i met a man 5 weeks a go . he is unemployed so had no money well he has been staying with me all over christmasi fed him washed his clothes bought him ciggerettes and alcohol we had too much to drink the other night now hes gone home ,after me giving him 5 pounds bis fare home
since hes been gone i presume he has money now but i havent heard from him in 2 days should i ring him or wait i dont no what to think
2007-12-27 21:46:17 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thanks for your advice
2007-12-27 23:31:53 · update #1
Obviously he was using you sweetheart, and has probably moved on to the next unsuspecting woman. Forget about him, you treated him how you would have been expected to be treated back. Move on, and find someone that'll appreciate you and treat you as well as you deserve, with love and respect. Good Luck!
2007-12-27 23:29:26 · answer #1 · answered by Mistress B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, your first mistake was to pay for all his crap while he was staying with you. You NEVER EVER do that with a man, men are supposed to take care of you not the other way around honey. If he has no job and he's a broke *** bum, and you paid for all his stuff and now he has money more than likely he was just using you. I'm really sorry this happened to you, what a jerk. If he doesn't call you at all, take that as a sign that you weren't anything but a gravy train to him.
2007-12-27 21:52:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't ring him, and if he contacts you tell him to sod off. He has obviously used you over christmas and you can do without that.
Find yourself a nice man, and someone with some self respect...when I first met my husband he was unemployed but any money he did get he always bought me food,fags etc and paid his way as much as he could.
Good luck to you.
2007-12-27 21:54:08 · answer #3 · answered by Heather B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This one is hard to tell. There are some guys out there that will take every dime you have and give nothing in return. There are some guys out there that are just having bad luck or a hard time. But' He is a good guy. Which one is yours? That's what you have to find out. Is he worth it. Good luck.
2007-12-27 22:01:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can only say this, I am unemployed but would never do what he has done. He has used you, so don't wait for him to get in touch. Just forget about him, he is a user, sorry but he will not change.
2007-12-27 23:08:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't contact him wait and if he really wants you tell him you want a man who is stable with a job and if he really has feelings for you he will make an effort and not scrounge off you
2007-12-27 21:53:36 · answer #6 · answered by lallybagwash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe a miracle has occurred and the dole sponging, bone idle oaf has found himself a job.
Is this really a bloke with whom you want to be involved?
2007-12-27 21:51:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
what? why should you call him are you mad?you did all the things you say you did for him and he hasnt even got the decency to ring you,dont be crazy he has obviously got what he wanted and i bet you anything you like,hes moved onto the next.seen it too many times.
2007-12-27 21:53:04 · answer #8 · answered by spaggy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's a scrounger! you know the saying
'youve got to have a J.O.B if you want to be with me!'
different if he was unfortunate enough to lose his job, but he is going knowhere and will leach off you...... bet he could buy him self a bottle of white lightening though....sorry i would bin him, find yourself someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated hun.
good luck and happy new year xxx
2007-12-27 21:54:49 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you provided a man with a subbie Christmas and hell NO he isn't ashamed.............he enjoyed EVERY MINUTE OF IT.But don't look for him to come back and chalk it up for just what it was worth.
2007-12-27 21:56:34 · answer #10 · answered by theradicalwomen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋