Sometimes when me and my boyfriend don't talk about anything I get mad at the little things that end up with me hanging up the phone or ignoring him for about 2 hours. Like a while ago, we weren't talking and I started a conversation on music and I said we liked different kinds of music and he agreed and he said that he'd never like hiphop like me, and I got mad for some reason, at that time I was thinking "Hip Hop??!! I'm not hip hop ghetto whatever!!" and he said he was sorry because he said that he noticed that I listen to r&b and hip hop a lot, and now that I'm calm, I noticed that it was a stupid thing to get mad about. but how do I stop getting mad about nothing? It's really bothering me, I'm not like this when I'm with my other friends that are guys.
2007-12-27 21:33:49 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The problem is he wont start a conversation because he has "nothing to talk about"
2007-12-27 21:38:40 · update #1
Wow, that's not a good thing.
Why do you do it? Probably because you've let him into your heart and you want to be with this guy and it hurts you to think that he doesn't approve of something you do or you don't approve of somethign he does, even when it's really minor. Maybe it's just a reminder that your relationship isn't perfect.
Try this, the next time you feel yourself starting to get really mad, immediately think of something positive. Think of something positive about him, something he did that made you happy... anything... Then tell/ask yourself that this is the man you love, he isn't intending anything mean or hurtful by his comment, why is this such a big deal to me. Is this worth getting mad over? All he wants to do is to make you happy and be with you, you want that too, but is getting mad really going to help our cause? Then tell him something positive about himself. (I love you, you're sweet, I enjoy talking with you, thank you for being you).
It will at least get your mind off of it and keep you calm enough to think if it's worth getting upset over and maybe move onto another topic. Then you can revisit that feeling when you're off the phone and ask yourself why you're so upset by it and if it's something he did wrong or it's something you're feeling wrong.
2007-12-27 21:47:30 · answer #1 · answered by BrandonM 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems that the reason you get mad is because he is your boyfriend. I guess you feel that since he is, he should be able to agree with you more and see your point of view better than lets say your other guy friends. you take more offense to his critiques and opinions because you care about his opinion and you probably value it more. You should just try to think about what he is saying to you instead of taking it to offense, just try to be open minded about his opinion. Also, if you feel like you are getting mad try to think about it and talk to him about it instead of just closing him out for two hours or whatever, it will help make your relationship grow with him if you communicate how you feel. When you are not getting mad a t him try to explain to him why you feel that way so that he can understand and not get mad to that you keep getting mad at him over nothing. Good luck and remember communication is key to a good relationship! Best wishes.
2007-12-27 21:42:04 · answer #2 · answered by spartansparta09 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem with getting mad at nothing. Someone can just get an attitude with me and I will flip out. Sometimes when I know that I'm getting too mad....it may sound weird or funny....I will stop, breathe in a few times....count to 10...then rethink the situation. Usually that gives me enough time to get "unmad."
Seriously....the next time you get mad. Stop and say "woosaw"....over and over as you breathe....and count to 10!
It really does work!
2007-12-27 21:39:32 · answer #3 · answered by hotblondbabe420 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
usually if you are getting mad over the small stuff...its not the small stuff at all.........Its something much bigger ( probably from child hood) that was never resolved.......... You need to think about that.........and get that issue from the past resolved....... also I'd like to recommend the books " Don't sweat the small stuff for couples " and" Battlefield Of The Mind"( they have one for teens too ) by Joyce Meyer ...( sorry don't remember who wrote the first one) Please ...get a handle on this before it makes the rest of your life and others miserable.
2007-12-29 19:21:19 · answer #4 · answered by Marie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel i get mad at my fiance for stupid lil things. what helps me is i take a step back from the convo if i feel myself getting mad and i ask myself is this realy wroth fighting about and most of the time its not worth it. and ill just tell my fiance hey that hurt my feelings a lil or ill say ya your right and ill just change the subject to somthing else like how was your day i hope i was able to help out good luck
2007-12-27 21:40:45 · answer #5 · answered by KRYSTLE M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2017-02-10 02:27:28 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry I misunderstood what you were saying. Sounds like he's trying to please you and is self concious of what he is saying to you for fear of rejection. I have a feeling he's pretty quiet overall. best thing to do is ask him why he has nothing to say or why he doesn't have an opinion. tell him that you are getting angry all the time cause he has nothing to say.
2007-12-27 21:38:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Quit wearing your feelings on your shoulders. You need to learn to pick and choose your arguments or you will never make a relationship work.
2007-12-27 21:36:39 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can not force him to talk if he has nothing to talk about. If this is a real issue for you that he doesnt talk much you should scratch your head and ask yourself if you want to continue with your boyfriend. It is always a bad idea to adapt someone to your own ideas.
2007-12-27 21:44:58 · answer #9 · answered by gjmb1960 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you stay on the phone just to stay on the phone. If you find the conversation stalls its time to say chow. Its alright, you don't have to just stay on the phone. Relax you will be alright. Best wishes
2007-12-27 21:52:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋