i had been nagging about and having attitudes and not much sex but no excuse to cheat
2007-12-27 21:26:46 · 6 answers · asked by dangerously in luv 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your question really didn't give enough detail to know exactly what happened so I will give you this answer:
Do you think it was an isolated incident and he is unlikely to do it again? Does he seem genuinely sorry and willing to make it up to you and work on your relationship? Do you love him?
If the answer to the above is yes, I would consider giving him ONE MORE CHANCE and if he screwed up that chance, there would be no coming back. I would only consider it if I felt that I had it in me to forgive him and put this problem behind me. You have two children so you have an extra incentive to want the relationship to work out - if there is a chance it will. I would also make sure he knew all the ground rules for being given a second (and last) chance!
There is however nothing to say you should take him back - but don't feel like taking him back is something that is going to reflect badly on you - you are the only one who can decide what is best for you. Giving him one more chance does not make you a push over. Giving him chance after chance does. One mistake can be just a mistake - several is a pattern that you are better off avoiding.
Good luck with whatever you decide! And btw - you are right, there was no excuse to cheat regardless of if you were nagging or didn't have a lot of sex - you have two small children, that is enough to make anyone a little nagging and too tired for sex...
2007-12-27 22:41:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the answer is yes...take him back why...communication is still the best way for solving problems...each one of us...we have our own shortcomings...try to ask yourself maybe you did something wrong...sometime we say that we are the best partner, we did our best to make him happy but we never ask him if he is happy or not right?....
every one deserves to have a second chance...you've been through thick and thin for four years...and its a good foundation...try...to talk to him...
constant communication...is very important in every relationships...
if you don't love him...try to think of what is the best solution..
you know what a man cheats only when they always have the same viand...
sometimes you need to be mysterious as a partner...
dont stop descovering...try to talk...if you have problems about him...talk...honesty is necessary...if you are not happy tell him...talk to him...you will be surprise because he will confess evrything to you...
2007-12-28 05:41:00 · answer #2 · answered by Michael P 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't. It's not your fault. Don't blame yourself no matter what. Those reasons shouldn't be an excuse for him. It's your life and choice though.
2007-12-28 05:31:59 · answer #3 · answered by what were you expecting? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, he is not sincere about his commitment to you or the children. Best you move on and wait for someone who is loyal.
Best wishes
Lisa
2007-12-28 05:31:44 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think 4 years are enough to forgive him and try to give him chance, find out why he did that ? then try to change your self first!
2007-12-28 05:32:42 · answer #5 · answered by Norma 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. He is a cheater, let him cheat (on someone else)!!!
2007-12-28 05:30:48 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋