When is it right? Or is it ever? My friend dated a guy and were in relationship for around three months. She lost his virginity to him, and then he broke up with him. Throughout their relationship, I have kind of been the middleman, with him asking me what she thinks and her asking me what he thinks. After they broke up, however, her ex-boyfriend and I have been talking more about other stuff, and he asked me out on a date. They've been broken up for a month now. Is it ok? Can I say yes? If not, then when can I say yes? Can I EVER say yes?
2007-12-27 20:16:59 · 27 answers · asked by styed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she didn't lose her virginity to him, I'd say yes but ask her first. However, because of their experience, I'd probably just let him go. Sorry, that's how it goes sometimes. If you don't agree, just ask yourself: Is he worth losing your friend?
2007-12-27 20:20:53 · answer #1 · answered by lupin_1375 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you are asking the wrong question. The appropriate question should be WHY did they break up, WHY would you want to date him? Does he treat others right and does he have all the qualities you are looking for in a person? Is there anything you don't like about that person, if there is he probably isn't the one for you. Let your "friend" be the middleman for a change and see how things develop. What's the harm in that? Do you think you are going to risk the lost of your "friend"? Then the right answer really belongs in your hands. I think it should be a no brainer.
2007-12-27 20:38:58 · answer #2 · answered by the doctor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like something im going through right now, only their not broken up. But trust me when they do im not going to date him at all. It's NEVER ok to date your friends ex's or someone they like, even if your friend says it's ok, it's not. I'm sorry sweetie but just like me you cant say yes you can only say NO.
Your friendship is wayy more important than any guy, especially if she lost her virginity to him, the answer is definitely NO. I even suggest to avoid any confrontation and drama, that you slowly but surely break off the close friendship that you have with him. You can still be friends but just not that close.
You know this is funny because i am going through the same thing right now, and i'm starting to talk to this boy less often, even though we were getting to be close friends, I cant do my friend that way, its wrong. And you shouldn't either.
Good Luck, and I hope everything works out for you.
2007-12-27 20:30:51 · answer #3 · answered by I ♥ Jesus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Style it out a little and try and find out how she feels about him without leading her on to her thinking they could get back together. If she doesnt have feelings for him then go for it...but if she does then for the sake of your friendship yo have got to let it go. Not only will you lose her as a friend, you'll lose many other friends aswell because with girls its like rule #1 not to go out with your best friends ex. It seems like your not to attached to him so why take the risk?
2007-12-27 20:23:15 · answer #4 · answered by hakieran d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't answer for girls, but here's the rules for guys. You have to ask permission from the friend. Of course, the men of the square table did say that 6 months was also appropriate:)
2007-12-27 20:23:10 · answer #5 · answered by big_scott_larock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a question of values, and so no answer is perfect for everyone. However, it is my belief that you never date someone who has dated your friend. I've never seen it work out before.
2007-12-27 20:27:13 · answer #6 · answered by Jacob M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait atleast a month, start off slow and you deff. should get her opion on it. cause i did that and it turned into a hugeeee thing. it was a disaster so just watch what you do. and explain to her how you fell about him and if she was a good friend she would pretty much understanddd.
2007-12-27 20:20:51 · answer #7 · answered by Chelsea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kind of a confused question, but...I would say the only way to know is to ask your friend.
2007-12-27 20:20:52 · answer #8 · answered by barbara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can say yes....
( after u get an ok from your friend ) good luck!
- Autumn
2007-12-27 20:19:51 · answer #9 · answered by Autumn Element 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur choice,if u like him & he likes u,then it maybe possible that Ur friend couldn't understand each other.Perhaps both of u R right choice?
2007-12-27 20:25:33 · answer #10 · answered by akbattafarid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋