single and 30. would like honest answers?

Question

i am 30 yrs old and have been single for a while now. ive had quite a few long term relationships. the ppl around me tho arent very supportive and its like they act as if ive missed the boat cos i havent settled down yet. was wondering what other ppls opinions are of a single 30 yr old? i feel like i just havent met mr right yet and theres stiill time for me. i live in a smallish city which is kinda conservative, am planning on moving to a bigger more cosmopolitan city...was there recently and there were loads of single ppl everywhere my age.

Answer 1

There is nothing wrong with being single and 30. It can be tough when you hit landmark ages like that and examine your life. But it is better to be single than to settle for someone that does not meet your standards because that would not last in the end. Take your time, no need to rush life, take your time and enjoy it.

Answer 2

Well, my roommate is 35 and just 4 mos ago she found somebody after a looooooooong layoff. (He's 38.) And they're really into each other (not just together for the sake of being together). Their friends and relatives were giving them an earful too. In addition, they were both hard on themselves bcuz their friends were married and he and she felt all alone before they met each other. So yes, there is still hope (and time) for you. She's doing better than me, as I am a 30 year-old guy that's never had a gf (and I've been looking, but I really have to ditch this online thing--ain't helping). But NEways, don't listen to those non-supportive ppl. They don't know when to shut up for their own good. Some of them just want to say those things to irk the you-know-what out of you bcuz you're not in the boat they're in yet. And yes, do move to that bigger city (better chances). Go get 'em girl!

Answer 3

I dont think anything is wrong with that. I think it would be a problem if you said you havent settled down at least once and it seems like you want a serious relationship. Its better to be alone and happy ten in a relationship where oyu are not being taken seriously. He will come along soon and you have the right attitide. Dont listen to the negative remarks it will only bring you down take em and walk on em and keep goin!

hope that helps

Answer 4

I have no problem with them, especially the attractive ones.

Seriously, you're in your prime...don't worry about what other people say. Just practice safe sex and be wise with whom you date and eventually you will find a true love.

Nowadays there is really not any old maids, besides you have at least 30 years to start before worrying about that. Now if you want children, you might have to step it up the next 10 or so years, but otherwise, have fun and enjoy life.

I'm in my 40's in a small town/metro blend area...its all good!

Fyrfytr

Answer 5

i am 35 and getting married, when 30 hit i was like well my chances to get married just decrease due to national satistics....rather depressing

then I met this guy who i was with for about a year, We both had a chip on our sholders about this isn't going to work out we showing off our old baggage to each other and yet falling in love but refusing to fall in .

In fact we even went our seperate ways for a bit, then we had a huge break through in communication and stoped the denial and are set to get married in April.

YES THERE IS HOPE!!!!! And yes there is guys out there with no baggage and no kids who are perfectly sweet and ready to get married and with a good job ...

but being single is a blast as well, and i had a great time doing it now i just have a male version of me to go do it with.

Answer 6

I don't think that way at all of anyone that is single. I think alot of it is jealousy when people go out of their way to say things like that. Jealous of what? You may ask... and I say freedom.

People who are taken or married often think back of the dating they did when they were single, or how free they were. I think the statements they may make are often because they are somewhat jealous of your free situation.

I don't find myself making fun of, or saying such things as it is just a phase in life we all move through. You don't have to have someone to be happy, but if that is what you are looking for, it will happen.

Don't worry so much about what others think about your relationship status, and focus more on other positive cues people throw your way to help you not only find Mr. Right, but to find him wanting you as well.

Answer 7

Yeah, it seems that the smaller the community the younger people get married. I'm in a smaller "major city", people seem to be getting married here in their mid 20s. I know what you mean though, I'm 27 my single friends are waning. :)

Although, I know in NYC people don't seem to be getting married until like 27-32. You'd fit right in that age range.

Don't worry, you'll be fine. The right one will come along soon enough. In the mean time, I know a lot of people who have had success on the dating sites.

Answer 8

I'll say this - the older you get, it's harder for women than it is for men.

But you are still plenty young to find someone. It does get harder as you age, because opportunities to meet become more scarce. But you're 30, not 50.

If you are outgoing, I wouldn't worry about it. Don't isolate yourself and you'll be fine.

I'll add that a lot of women in your position have WAY TOO HIGH of standards.

Answer 9

I don't know. I live in the New York City area and there are tons and tons of single people 25-40 here, including myself.

Answer 10

Good god girl you're only thirty. There's tons of time to meet the right guy. Just be sure that he is the right guy. Do not settle for some idiot because your friends think it's time for you to settle down.