2007-12-27 19:51:28 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Time is the best way.
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2007-12-27 19:58:27 · answer #1 · answered by Antoni 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaking up with someone is psychologically comparable to the death/dying of a partner and there are certain steps you need to go through to recover. That old saying that "time heals all wounds" is true on some levels and completely false on others. Love is a strange, powerful, wonderful and terrifying thing...and the sudden loss of it can feel very overwhelming.
My advice is to have a good cry--gather your friends, get some sad music, some funny movies, some happy music, some sad movies, popcorn and cookie dough and make a night of it--or if you're a more private person, kick back with a glass of wine and a hot bath and let your mind go where it will.
The bottom line is everyone is different and some people will take longer to get over things than another person. While it hurts you horribly now...in a couple days it will start to hurt a little less....and a little less....and a little less....until you find that you don't hurt on a regular basis anymore. That's not to say that you might not still have moments where you see something that was solely the two of yours and have those feelings come back. But those moments will lessen over time as well.
For now, do your best to make it through. Gather friends and family for moral support and know that better times lay ahead.
2007-12-27 19:58:55 · answer #2 · answered by guinness77_doll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man it sucks i went through the same thing but what really does help is 2 cut off that person completly 100% it sucks and its hard but thats the only way and you have to keep your mind bussy try not 2 talk about it be w/ the people that make u the happiest go 2 church get more hours at work be active dont stay in the house and dwell on it it just makes it worse and harder to let go i mean its problly not the best thing to do but i tryed to think about all the bad things evin the littlest ones that we experenced and i never talkd about him i mean for me its been like 3 years since but after i got outta that feeling sorry 4 myself thing i can talk about him u know admit i still love him and what not and would like to get in touch w/ him evin though i know we wont ever get back together
2007-12-27 20:03:00 · answer #3 · answered by i just do what i do 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Electric shock therapy. Might scramble the memories....lol.
Time is the only thing to help you get over anyone. Sometimes it can take a year or two. Just avoid going to places where you went with that person and try to get out to have some fun with others.
2007-12-27 19:55:32 · answer #4 · answered by Helena 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember everything is meant to be exactly the way it happens so you have to look at it that way, sometimes you have to lose someone and things have to mess up inorder for other parts of your life to fall together. Whatever happened that caused the both of you to break up should let you know that it wasn't real because when love is real it's forever!
2007-12-27 19:55:33 · answer #5 · answered by Sherry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it ended by them ending it then it wasn't true love and you will get over it in time...don't listen to sad music and try to stay busy and just learn from it. When the time comes that you find your one you will look back and wonder why you were ever even upset at all.
2007-12-27 20:01:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sending a "big warm hug"
it would feel like a challenge to get over him. But you have to move on. Time and distance helps. Try to keep yourself busy and surround yourself with friend and family. He will creep into your thoughts unexpectly and its very normal. There will be moments you will feel fine and moments just miss him like hell and feel your heart hurt. But you can get over him. it is doable. Its something that will take time. Darkest hour of the night is before dawn. Don't lose hope. Good luck :-)
2007-12-27 19:58:35 · answer #7 · answered by Betsy Boop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love them so much, get into a relationship with them. if you can't for whatever reason find someone else and move on life is too short. there's probably someone even better than them in your local network
2007-12-27 19:55:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just went through a nasty breakup, and i agree with everyone who says that time will heal all wounds. someone said to me the other day "don't waste your cute years dwelling on some loser!" I become happier everytime I remind myself of that!
2007-12-27 20:01:40 · answer #9 · answered by mrs. miller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does it matter what you do? if they dont want you move on and someone told me dont cry. and i will tell everyone that it really does help move on. i mean, i dont even cry at the usual stuff like movies i would normally cry about. dont listen to sad songs and dont stay on a thought about them for more than a couple seconds either. stay busy with your thoughts on other things. good luck dear
2007-12-27 19:56:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself some time to get over what happened.. It's completely normal to feel that way
Talk to your friends
Focus on your life & get back on track
2007-12-27 19:55:51 · answer #11 · answered by PVK9OO 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋