OK. So I met this really cool guy two months ago. He was hot, nice and very gentlemen to me on our first date. We huged at the end ,no kiss though. He said we should hang out again. But after that, he's not ask me out again!
We just sent emails back and forth like friends. I really liked him. I couldn't help thinking of him. So I txt him to ask him out 1 month later. He replied " yes, that would be great." However, when i called to make sure , he said his dad was coming to town so he couldn't make it this time by saying "let's hang out soon!" I believed him coz he had told me that his dad might be coming.
But few days ago, right before X'mas, I asked him out again. He accepted it also. So I'd had prepared the present for him before he txted me on that day telling me that he got sick and would call me soon so we can try again. I hated hearing this, but just replied him thats ok.
Should I belive him again and wait? Is he interested in me at all? I need advice from u guys PLS!
2007-12-27 19:51:15 · 26 answers · asked by Kary H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thank you guys so much! I really appreciate ur help. My mind is much clearer now. I think I should stop contacting him and see how it goes.
2007-12-27 20:24:35 · update #1
He could be telling the truth...who knows? :/
But what you should do to find out is wait for him to make the move..don't keep asking him out.
If he's truly interested, he will be the one to ask you for plans before you do. If he doesn't..then maybe you can ask again and if he makes up another excuse before it..then just give up and wait for him.
2007-12-27 19:56:43 · answer #1 · answered by Riley 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you are getting politely blown off. The adult thing for him to do would be to have said "I don't think we should see one another again," and your response would properly have been "sorry to hear that. Okay." However, that isn't what has happened, and now you are confused, so I suggest that you direct your question to him.
Ask him directly, since he has been evasive.... are you trying to nicely tell me to take a hike, or do you honestly want to go out with me again? Then, and this is the hard part, if he says "yes," that he does, tell him this: Then here is my number.
Some guys absolutely hate to be chased, and if you make it his choice and he has to chase you a little bit, it might tip the scales a little. And if his answer is that he doesn't want to go out, but wants to be friends, etc., then LET IT GO, and move on.
Sorry for you that this has gone on as long as it has. Gentlemen don't do this to ladies.
2007-12-28 03:56:54 · answer #2 · answered by purplesometimes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personnally, this is just me because well i'm outspoken and if i want answers i will look for them. I would ask him does he have a problem with me and that it can't just be coinicidential that these things happen when we organise meeting up etc. If he doesn't want to see me or whatever then tell me straight so that i'm not being pushed from post to pillar because it isn't very fair on me. Don't be pushed around honey, and it must be hurtful to be stood up, you stand your ground darling and tell him what you think. It's up to you whether to BELIEVE him or to ask him again, because I don't know this boy. But remember you are only human your feelings account for something too.
Good luck xxx
2007-12-28 04:01:12 · answer #3 · answered by Jayne 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi,
I just read your post and thought I would give you some advice. I personally am an upfront person so I think you should let him now that you think he's cool and that your interested in him but tell him that it's ok if he's not (this might be a lie ;) but you still want to be friends with him.
I personally don't like run around situation and I know your better than that. Hey, trust your womanly intuition. lol. hope this helps
2007-12-28 03:59:45 · answer #4 · answered by inixsy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not interested, think about all the trouble you are going to and he can't even grab coffee with you when his dad is in town? You should read the book "He's Just Not That Into You." Seriously, it's all about this problem. I wouldn't believe him, or at least I would assume he was just not that into me. Either way, I think asking someone out by text is probably not the best idea.
2007-12-28 03:56:03 · answer #5 · answered by H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't now...it sounds like he's avoiding you but then again it sounds like he's really busy. I'd wait on him a bit more, maybe 4 months? But if he always has some reason for not coming to your date-give up on it because it's either a) he doesn't want to date you (reasons unknown) b) he's busy (and you shouldn't date a REALLY busy guy) . You guys can still email each other of course but if he can't make it to your guy's dates it's obvious you guy's aren't going to date anytime soon.
2007-12-28 04:10:14 · answer #6 · answered by kimi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has a girlfriend. I do the same thing he is doing to you because I have a bf at home but, still make an effort to hook up with people in this very exact same way so that no one will find out.
2007-12-28 03:55:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy, You can keep in touch by the emails and just send him one telling him to let you know when a good day to get together would be and leave it as that. If it does he was telling the truth if he doesn't...well sorry he isn't interested.
But you really should get to know him AS a friend more before dating. Cuz if you did you would already know the answer to your own question.
2007-12-28 04:11:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
from what i have read...he just playing you..he can feel that your into him but yet i dont think he into you...i think you should ignore him n see what his responds rather than keep on asking him out on date n texting him...or tell him straight out rather then guessing...n also..how many excuses can he give about this happening n that happening...if everytime you ask him to go out n he like sure..but at the end he leave u hanging...i dont think this guy is worth it...it better if you go out with someone else...
2007-12-28 04:00:17 · answer #9 · answered by pinkepromise 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just take it as a hint that he does not like you is trying to make excuses and avoid you....It is better you understand this as soon as possible because you will be in trouble not he....just try to avoid him and forget him...definately there is someone who is more good and cool than him waiting for you....so cheer up and try to forget him.
2007-12-28 03:56:51 · answer #10 · answered by Shilpa B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋