I had depression for 3 years from 2001-2004. After 7 years I'm getting ready to tell some of my close friends. Do you think they will be mad that I didn't tell them? I didn't want them to feel sorry for me because I was "sick".
2007-12-27 19:33:50 · 7 answers · asked by ? 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I just feel that I was in the wrong for keeping this for 3 years. If one of my friends had something wrong with them I would want them to tell me. For me depression is equal to any other sickness like cancer or diabetes. Lots of people get depression just as lots of people get cancer. You know what I mean? I'm revealing this for a faith testimony talk that I have to give for a retreat.
2007-12-27 19:57:25 · update #1
Honestly?
Everyone on-line who doesn't know you or your friends and circumstances cannot tell you whether they'll be mad or not. What we can do is offer you advice on how to tell it, what normally happens and our opinions on how they will react based on our OWN experience.
It's going to be different for you.
I know this isn't exactly reassuring, but in most cases of something like this, your friends will be shocked if you really let nothing slip, or they'll be happy you told them, or they'll just be sad that you didn't and that they couldn't help you.
They WILL feel sorry for you because you were sick.
That doesn't mean they're going to pity you for the rest of your life; it means they're nice people who can empathize and are good friends.
In this case, be happy.
Another thing that may happen is that they will appear to be angry, but anger is just sadness with enthusiasm, you know, so it's just that they feel hopeless or upset about your past situation that they couldn't help with.
All of these things mean they're good friends.
The bad friends?
The ones that go, 'Oh, right. I thought you might be, but like, it's not my business you know. So you're fine now, right? GOOD! So before you said that, remember I was saying about my day...? Well this chick at work said...' And drone on about themselves.
Note that people might try this to lighten an atmosphere, but generally not if you don't suddenly spring it on them.
Anyway, this is not a 'everyone-in-the-world-conforms-to-this' rant... It's just some advice you may or may not need.
Hope this helps.
2007-12-27 21:26:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would they? Most people don't think of depression as anything more than being sad. Few equate it with being "sick." Doesn't sound like a secret to me, but like appropriately kept confidence with yourself. Some things don't really need to be shared.
2007-12-28 03:39:18 · answer #2 · answered by purplesometimes 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This secret isn't one that will destroy relationships and friendships so you can go ahead and tell them and I'm positive they will not get mad at you.
I don't even see why you even need to tell them? Did you do something during that time that could relief some guilt off you?
2007-12-28 03:37:57 · answer #3 · answered by Joanna 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why do you feel like you need to tell anyone you were depressed? many people are depressed. you do not need to feel guilty or anything. but if you need someone to talk about it with then you can say something.
2007-12-28 03:53:49 · answer #4 · answered by Bird Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can explain the feeling of freedom in you heart and in your mind to your soul and you understand it,translate it to your friends. Make sure you explain it just how you felt it.Tell them its hard to explain but its over and you could not have made it without them.
2007-12-28 04:18:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They swhouldnt be mad because technically its not their problem and if they try and pull that if u cared bullshit than thye need a life because u cared enough to not put your problem on their mind. Glad your better
2007-12-28 03:38:08 · answer #6 · answered by Nickie b57 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i thought you were gay
it would be childish for them to act
or genuinely be mad
you've lived with this for long
enought you should share
it if you think its that important
2007-12-28 03:43:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋