living in a hell hole?

Question

my bf and i just broke up, but we are living in his parents house (crappy situation to begin with). and im like 3000 miles away from home and just got offerd a job i really wanted, so i dont want to go home. all he does is treat me like crap, and now his parents too. i dont want to leave my job! i dont have enough money to move out, there is no answer to this, i just have to save money and live in this hell hole till i can escape. the funny thing is, he doesnt work or do anything and hes 30! wow i picked a winner i cant wait until this is over. he doesnt even have a valid reason for the breakup, i guess i was the one that started it all, but he doesn't do anything and i work my butt off. I dont understand how someone can treat you like crap when you are hardly ever around. i dont even do anything to bother him? He sits at home all day and plays video games all day. Sorry i had to vent. Please dont tell me how stupid i am because i am already told that enough by the EX. i had to vent.

Answer 1

wow that sucks hardcore good luck girly!

Try and work things out just to make the tension less tight, and make him think you are still interested so they don't kick you out, but once you have the necesarry resources get out of there as fast as you can, because you don't need him pulling you back from your happiness and success!

Answer 2

Let that be a huge lesson. Don't make the same mistake with the next guy. Weigh the odds with the next one. You'll get the money in a couple weeks to leave. Buy just the bare necessities to barely get buy and save, save, save. In 2-3 weeks you'll be gone. A week later he'll come to move in with you. I have had a couple friends go through the same thing. Do your best not to start trouble with him or the family. Then when you have the money, go rent a place, get the power on, buy a few groceries. Don't tell anyone anything. Then go get your clothes and things. Take a friend with you for help and support and as a witness. You'll learn why later on.

Answer 3

Is there any possibly way that you can talk to a friend and see about working out some sort of financial arrangement with them?
I would call my parents and any and all family and see if any or all of them might be able to loan or give you some money to get out of this situation.
If nothing else this will teach you alot about people and how some are lazy and have absolutely no work ethic.
Remember - AND THIS TOO SHALL PASS. ( hopefully sooner than later).
Good luck - you deserve some and a whole lot better boyfriend.

Answer 4

Vent all you like. Stuck in a situation like that is hard enough without having idiots on here to vent at you. Sometimes we make mistakes, learn from them and you will be a better, more prepared person next time :)

Answer 5

i wish u the best of luck and time to fly while ur in that crap hole. A way to make u not hate it so much... Just think about how much u love ur job, how ur going to have the best apt and be extreamly happy, while the jerk will still be living at home with his mommy and daddy getting nowhere and him loosing the best thing that ever happened to him (you).
I wish u the best.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Run an ad for a roommate so you can move into an apartment with someone and split the bills--that way you can move out as soon as you get a good prospective roomie.

Answer 8

I hope you get out of this situation soon. Perhaps you can take out a pay day loan and speed up the process.
He sounds like a loser but it doesn't mean you are.

Good thing you got out before you ever had a child with that worthless sack of poop!

Answer 9

Check the newspaper for people advertising for a roommate, or go back home and start over again. Don't subject yourself to this any longer. If you do, eventually, you will lose your self esteem.

Answer 10

Too bad you didn't say what state you live in. Maybe We could help you find somewhere else to live. Good luck. If you need to talk you can look me up.