A woman's opinion PLEASE!!?

Question

if i were to meet a woman(you) at a public place, bookstore, resteruant, etc. how should i strike up a conversation, without seeming like just a weird guy hitting on you?

Answer 1

Start with saying hi & then saying that she has an interesting book in her hand. Better is that you know something about the subject which she is reading or else if she is open, start a discussion about the subject she is reading.

Answer 2

Well, being approached by an unknown guy will usually, if not always, make a woman feel a margin of weirdness/anxiety/and intimidation. But that doesn't mean that you should never talk to us. Just keep in mind that its natural that we'll be at least a little alarmed at first.

That said, the trick isn't what you say. You don't have to be a genius. (Besides, if she thinks you're cute, anything you say will sound brilliant.) I recommend somewhere book-related. Such places are calm, packed with meaningful conversation piecies, and tend to be inhabited by literate people. Also, sitting near someone in a reading chair isn't as intimate as sitting down at their table!

So here's what you do....

STEP 1: The next time you spot some hottie flipping through the Foreign Languages or Pets section, just browse some of the books next to her and say something to her. Practically anything. For example, say she's looking at....

A.) Learn Russian in 10 Minutes a Day!
-You say, "I wonder if that really works?"

B.) Puppy Training for Dummies
-You say, "I couldn't help but notice that book you're reading. If you're having dog trouble, you gotta watch that show with Cesar Milan on Animal Planet. 'The Dog Whisperer', I think. Useful stuff."

C.) The Bourne Identity
- You say, "Hopefully the book is better than the movie."

None of these statements are particularly catchy, but if you're calm and casual about it (and don't give her the 'Woow, you're pretty' stare), you just might impress her with your confidence.

STEP 2: Escape! She might just give you a short reply, or she might start making small talk with you. Unless she's clearly giving you the 'Wow, he's cute', stare--you've got to step back. At the first natural opportunity--like a pause or conclusion of the topic--take your leave. Pick a book from the same section and/or say something like, "I'll let you finish browsing," and then go find a comfy chair to read your book in. And actually read it. If she walks by, feel free to make eye contact and smile briefly (but warmly), then go back to your book.

She'll probably know that you're flirting with her, but since you were quick to give her space, she shouldn't feel like a stalking victim. If you're her type, she'll be intrigued and flattered that you talked to her and will probably come to YOU. The conversation and the smile let her know she's welcome to approach you--the fact that you keep your distance shows that you're not desperate or creepy.

I performed a similar technique once myself and it actually worked. And you know what the best part is? When we ended up going out, he always thought that *he* was the one who made the first move!

Pretty cool, huh? ^_~

Answer 3

Reminds me of this very cute looking guy I saw at the Subway shop queuing infront of me ordering his sandwich. As I entered the shop he looked me and immediately asked if I worked at some place and to which I replied no.. He smiled and said u look familiar and I just smiled.. Coz its quite clear he was just trying to get to know me. And well since I am open minded, I had a simple conversation with him.. haha.. :)

Answer 4

Try to get some kind of eye contact and smile. If she doesn't smile back, walk away. If she does, it's a good sign. Walk around, get eye contact again, smile, and this time wink. If she laughs, or smiles again, make your move and walk over. Make fun of what you just did, introduce yourself and compliment her on something that genuinely attracted you. Sincerity goes a long way.

Answer 5

Just start talking to the girl, depending on level of her maturity she shouldn't think your weird.

Answer 6

"excuse me, do you know where [insert place name here] is?"
"hey aren't you [insert fake name's] sister?"


anything simple. just don't use lines like "are you an actress?" or those other lame ones. :]