grieving for my pet?

Question

it's been a day now after loosing my budgie , not many people can understand what it feels they think you are crazy to grieve for a bird .i have been crying all the time couldn't sleep either are there many like me out there and what can one do to help?

right now i am crying and crying all the time cos she clinged to me and wouldn't want to leave me oh how i miss her

Answer 1

Hi Madeline

It is alright to cry.Humans are the only creation of God that can cry and show emotions of grievance.We have a center of emotions and a tender heart that collects all good feelings and memories of good incidents in our lives,and when this happiness in our heart vanishes,we feel sorrow,and we display our sadness in a form of grieving and that is why we cry.
In the case of your loved feathered friend,you were probably
too attached to him,may be he was your play mate,but for some reason,his life was cut short,and now you miss him very much.
When God created all living creatures,they were made to last for ever,without ever dying.But one day,this woman Eve,was seduced and she disobeyed God's law.As a result of this, all living creatures were than destined to die.Mankind as been grieving death since than.
But there is a time just ahead of us,that God will reestablish
His new Kingdom,and God's obeying people will be blessed
with everlasting life,again.
At that time,we no longer will be suffering the disappointment,
and the sadness of our loved ones dying,and departing from
the love and care of their family members.

In your case ,dear friend,your loved budgie departed from your loving friendship and care,but please be assured that he is no longer suffering any pain,nor cold,nor thirst.He is just resting and in Gods loving care.

May this loving God Jehovah bless your heart,and show you his loving way of happiness and joy.

Best regards to you Madeline

The Canaryman

Answer 2

Grieving and the release of emotion isn't only normal, it's healthy. If we humans kept our emotions bottled up it would lead to big problems. So cry and sob and do whatever you feel like you need to do, screw what the rest of the world thinks.

I have a lot of animals, which inevitably means losing them all sooner or later. And every time I've lost one it's been a nightmare, from my hamster when I was seven up to 2005 when my dog was hit by a car two weeks before one of my cockatiels died.

I guess we all have our own ways of handling difficult emotions like sorrow and grief. Personally, to temporarily escape the black pit of misery and really terrible and painful thoughts that accompany loss or great stress, I focus on something else I care about or am distracted by and just think about that. What I do usually is break out the arsenal of Star Trek DVDs and do nothing but vegetate in front of the TV for hours on end. Not that when it's over I feel any better, but at least it's a temporary escape.

Thinking about the lost pet can make some people feel comforted, while with others such as myself it just adds to the misery until you want to flush your head down the toilet. It just hurts so bad I try to avoid it at all cost, but for you it might make you feel better to remember the good things and times with him/her.

I guess my point is, just do whatever it is that makes you feel comfortable and quiet under normal circumstances. It should comfort you now, if only for a while.

I know how you feel with the not sleeping thing. Going to bed at night when you're grieving somehow seems really creepy and miserable. I'm sorry. D:

I really sympathize with you. You're not the only one out there who feels the way you do, or the only one who cares that much about your pets and their deaths. Again, I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. I really do hope sincerely that you feel better soon. :)

--Ivy

Answer 3

I know how you feel I just lost my two cats not to long ago, my female died from a car and the doctor could find out why my second died only a day after i belive he died of a broken heart. So I know the feeling a pet is a part of the family like a sibling a child. Just try to remember the good times you've had with them, remember the silly stuff they did and try to laugh, it alright to cry if you truthly miss Budgie but don't cry all the time. My mother told me this and I hope it will help you " Death may be permanent but love is infinite" it simply mean that you love you dog when you got him, you loved him as you went throw life with him and right now as you read this I know you still ave love for him.

Answer 4

I am so very sorry for your loss. I lost one of my kitties a couple of years ago. I cried and cried, everyday, for what seemed like forever. I couldn't stop. I found a website over those first couple of days that were a great help to me. Petloss.com. There are so many other people out there that have gone through this, or are going through this and are willing to offer words of help, encouragement, etc. It helped me tremendously. They even have a candle ceremony on Monday nights (I believe it is Monday) where you can list your pet, and light a candle. It was very helpful in helping me grieve and heal. Good luck, and just know that you will heal over time. You won't forget, but it does get easier.

Answer 5

I absolutely sympathize, too. Five years ago at Thanksgiving, my beloved Quaker parrot died after 13 years of being my best buddy, and I swear it hurt almost as much as when my mother died. It was hard even looking at his empty cage for days afterward (and it was hard to avoid, because the cage was in my bedroom).

I couldn't stand not having a bird in my life, so I got another bird about a month later -- my first caique -- but I still have pictures of my little Quaker buddy on my computer.

Answer 6

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I know how hard it is to loose an animal- no matter what shape or size.

I just recently lost a beloved rabbit in my rescue, and he was so close to my heart. One thing that helped me through it the most is that he was waiting on rainbow bridge for me.

I would never want one of my animals to suffer, and accepting the fact that they were suffering and they would have continued suffering while they are on this earth.

I hope that something that I have said has helped you out. Once again, I am so sorry for your loss and I wish you the best.

Rachael

Answer 7

WE love our pets and it is normal to grieve.
If people think you are crazy, then they are not the friends to confide in.
Give youself time to grieve. Although this was a bird, please don't let it ruin the rest of your life.
I have had to put down dogs and I miss them, but the grief has passed.
I had a son die and believe me losing a human is more difficult than a pet.
So, know that you will grive, but you will also move on.

Answer 8

Madeline,

Any normal person with a heart grieves over the loss of a beloved animal. It's truly devastating.

I would like to urge you to come over to my favorite bird forum and join us there. We have a special section "over the rainbow bridge" dedicated to tributes to our lost love ones. Everyone there is kind, respectful and are all parrot owners who love their animals very much. There is no flaming, rudeness or spam tolerated and in my humble opinion is the absolute best bird forum on the net. Please come on over, introduce yourself, tell us all about your baby and what you're feeling during this difficult time. You'll come to find there are many people who are currently going through and have already gone through this devastating experience.

http://www.theperch.net/discussion/index.php?referrerid=2601

Here is a post I made (username wondermomma) there a few weeks back about how to process everything when we lose one of our babies. I hope you'll find it useful. Mine is post #17. http://www.theperch.net/discussion/showthread.php?t=30487&highlight=grieving+process

I am so sorry for your loss.

Answer 9

8 years in the past my 18 365 days previous cat died. under a 365 days in the past a 2nd cat, on the age of 18, additionally died. the two have been very ill and that i chosen to help them relax. I leave out the two one among them. whilst i think of with regard to the final one, I cry slightly. I actual have 2 greater pets, suited now. they are the "alternative kitties." i'm a Catholic, to boot. I see my animals as my relatives. i be responsive to i admire them and that they've attachment to me. I actual have considered human beings deliver their pets to church for a definite blessing. In farm communities, monks pass out to bless the animals. no count in case you do or have not got self assurance that animals have the comparable style of spirit that folk do, there's a life rigidity which you will discover. Our pets are delighted to be certain us, persist with us and convenience us. i think of they return love, are altruistic and unselfish. As area of our family contributors they could desire to indirectly have an everlasting life with us, even no count if it quite is in reminiscence. yet, you be responsive to, my thought of heaven could be to be certain them lower back. and because God loves me, it rather is conceivable. it gets greater uncomplicated to undergo. It takes a pair years. Be grateful you had a relationship with the variety of great creature. Be at peace.

Answer 10

I am sorry you are hurting. Here's a website for people who are grieving for their beloved pets that have moved on. I hope this helps.

http://www.rainbowsbridge.com/
Rainbows Bridge Home Page