so, my mom caught bf and I the other day (shirtless, both of us) and now wants to lecture him on respecting me, etc etc. she's worried that we'll be serious and he won't treat me right, even though he is the sweetest, most sincerely kind person I know (boyfriend or not) and he absolutely respects my wishes and goals in life. Do I warn him? Do I say something to mom?
2007-12-27 18:57:26 · 15 answers · asked by blorb 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we're each over 20 years old and old enough to know best for ourselves. i think he and i should demonstrate through future actions (better avoidance of the unacceptable situations) rather than have her lecture at him.
2007-12-27 19:03:17 · update #1
Now, seriously, girl. What do you expect her to do? Don't take it so seriously. You and your boyfriend ought to take it with a sense of humor and try to get along with your Mom. She just proved she loves you and cares about you. Maybe make a date with her. Take her to the movies. Sit around in the kitchen and chat with her (the 3 of you) over sodas or tea. Show her some respect, affection, and attention, and she will be more caring. Look, it's not a war here. It's family. Loosen up with her.
2007-12-27 19:04:02 · answer #1 · answered by Sarrafzedehkhoee 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look at it this way, mom doesn't want you to end up young and pregnant. My sister went that route and trust me it's not pretty. You become a grown up almost instantly, your hopes and dreams for the future become completely worthless. Your mom is just looking out for you, don't do anything to mess that up. Don't disrespect your mom by telling your boyfriend some stupid lie about what your mom has to say. Let her say her thing to him, if he can't take it like a man then he's not worth it. If he can sit there and listen and talk to your mom maturely and respectfully and still stick around, then he really cares. Don't throw over your mom for some guy, he's just some guy who might not be around in a few years, your mom's gonna be around the rest of your life.
2007-12-27 19:08:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As for warning him, just explain to him that your mom gets serious when it comes to things like that and he has nothing to worry about. With your mom, tell her he respects you and your life and he would never force you into doing things you don't want to. Tell her every decision you guys make when it comes to your relationship is based on the both of you.
2007-12-27 19:01:59 · answer #3 · answered by Riley 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to start acting like a lady. What would make you put yourself in the position to be caught by your mother? You must have been in your parents home doing this. that is not respectful of yourself, your bf or your parents.
2007-12-27 19:03:10 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your mom do her thing. She has your best interests at heart and it never hurts to remind him just how valuable of a person you are. yes it will suck for him but if he is as great as you say he will respectfully sit and listen to yor mother.
As for a warning I would prepare him.
2007-12-27 19:01:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grow up, move out. Tell your BF to grow some balls and get his own place so you both can play house w/o mom. Shirts optional all day!
2007-12-27 19:02:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes warn him....so he can prepare what to say....it would be best for your and his interests if you warned him...i know how you feel and i've been in the same situation before...close enough to it anyways....and say something to your mom...let her know that yes you and him were messing around but you feel like he's the one and let her know that you respect her for caring about you and not wanting you to get hurt but that you truly have feellings for this guy....
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2007-12-27 19:03:37 · answer #7 · answered by Stephen Matthews 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm yes. warn him on whats about to happen. Don't let your bf be surprised! Get together with him and figure out what your going to say. On the mom part...let her say what she's going to say. Nothing you can say will change her mind.
2007-12-27 19:01:48 · answer #8 · answered by Giselina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her do it, but warn your bf that she's about to tell him some stuff that may mostly be BS.
It really depends on how old you are. If you're like 16 then I don't think she can tell you anything you don't already know.
2007-12-27 19:00:54 · answer #9 · answered by bigDee 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i'm a guy and i'm with the mom on this. you shouldn't be messing around this early. the longer you wait, the better it's gonna be if you find the right person and get married.
2007-12-27 19:00:37 · answer #10 · answered by mysteryman_sx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋