my boyfriend wants me to give him a bj?

Question

well i am in high school and rumors spread fast so how do i do it right with out no one knowing i need help and yes i am 17

Answer 1

Same way you suck on a popsicle. At least that's a good starting point. He'll let you know what he likes and doesn't like.

Rookie mistakes:
-Too much teeth
-Too much sucking and not enough licking
-Forgetting to work the underside of his dick and his balls, we love to have our balls licked

Just don't worry and give it your best shot. He'll love you for trying and you will only get better at it.

I get to it though, otherwise he'll find someone else who will.

Answer 2

you can't stop the rumors and you are very well aware of that... your 17... so i don't know if you should even do it... but if you are comfortable having sex, and you are comfortable with him. and if it doesn't gross you out... you shouldn't worry about the rumors too much... its highschool rumors spread fast and are forgotten about fast... i'm married and its really no big deal now... i never did it in high school so i don't know how it would have been... maybe you should tell him that you don't feel that your private life is anybodys business and if he likes it than if he tells anyone it will never happen again... good luck.. and like i said only do it if you are comfortable with him... don't do something you think that you might regret...

Answer 3

Yeah thats true, rumors spread very quickly i'm in high school too, my friend did something one day, and the next morning the whole school was talking about it, i was shocked lol.
But don't do it, if you to were to ever break up with him he would definitely use that against you, making you seem easy and nasty. This happens all the time to people at my school. Guys start to call you names and think you are easy, and girls start to dislike you as well. It's not cool anymore to rush into sex. This happened to my friend, and I didn't even want to hear what people were saying about her.
It's weird though because when guys do it, people think it's cool. if he tells one person the whole school will know. And the least of your worries are your peers knowing, God knows too, and it is a sin.

Tell him you don't wont to do it, your the one who will face the consequences wayyy more than he will.
I recommend you do it right and wait till your married to do that stuff, or don't do it at all. There's too many consequences all kinds of STD's and your reputation is at risk. Your young you have your whole life, don't rush into doing that stuff. To be honest if he were the right guy for you, he wouldn't want you to do it at all, the right guy would want to wait till your married. Your young and shouldn't even be thinking about all that stuff, you should be having fun, and planning what college you want to go to. Don't do it sweetie, wait till your married and do it right.

Answer 4

If you don't want to do it, don't. Especially if you're worried about rumors. Pretty good chance your boyfriend will mention it somewhere along the way and word could get around. Don't let anyone pressure you into something you're not ready for.

If you decide to do it, and still want to be discrete, don't do it at, or anywhere near school. On the weekend, out alone with him, find a quiet place...

Oh, and if he makes any threats or ultimatums, just dump him and move on.

Answer 5

It seem that your making a big deal out the word sex or oral sex. If you have to question yourself then it not your best choice.
What could happen if you do or do not if you can deal with the out come you have done well!

Your 17 think of will it be worth have everyone know that you did or you did not by word or a STD.
Your a very smart you need not rethink what you feel your not ready for that. if you feel diff rent then the best of luck.

It's good to ask'.

Answer 6

Well first off, only do it because you want to and feel comfortable not because you feel pressured into it. On the topic of people finding out, make sure he knows that if he tells people and it gets around school it is over between you, if he cares and he is trustworthy, it won't be an issue. The only other option I can give you is to be sure that if it does get around you are comfortable enough in your decision to look people in the face and tell them , yeah, so what.

Answer 7

First be sure the bf is dependable. If he boasts about his conquests it could be embarassing for u, and rumors spread very fast. Do it only if u have a place that is fully private and isolated, and tamper proof.

Answer 8

Well you have to really know and trust your bf. If you do it can you trust him to keep his mouth shut. Yes guys can be ***** and brag but there are some goods ones out there. I was a football player so i heard the locker room talk, but i kept my business to myself. So if you trust him, do what your gut tells you. Cause the minds plays games but the belly never lies. If your comfortable try it, if not he should respect your decision. if he doesn't well hes not worth bein with. :) hope I helped

Answer 9

Giving oral sex to your "man" should be between both of you. If rumors were to go out, it's obviously your boyfriend. Do you have trust in him? How long have you've been dating him? Etc...

If he is mature enough or if you're mature enough, then both of you should of have deep communication over sex. Therefore no rumors should ever go out because if this guy of yours has some bragging issues with his buddies then good luck to you.

Answer 10

well the truth is your still really young and that something like that spreading around the school is not good and all i can strongly suggest is not to do it because more than likely he will tell one of his friends and then it'll start spreading around like wildfire so just take your time and know that this is something you really want and are able to accept the consequences