I feel sad. I don't know what to do with my life. I am a 29 yr old female and have a college degree, was once independent and doing great in my life. Then bad things happened (I got sick, lost my job, lost my home, and fiance and I broke up) and now I'm back living with my dad and don't have a job. Should I get a job or go back to school for another degree? Should I live here rent-free or move out as soon as I get a job? I need a new life and don't know where to start, don't know what kind of job to get or anything!! Help!!
2007-12-27 18:12:42 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
move to a diffent city or state !
start a new life !
dont go back to college whats the point ?!
get a job !
once you find some new friends and a new job things are going to get better !
go to the movies with your friends !
2007-12-27 18:17:08 · answer #1 · answered by Cupcake Rawr 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes so many problems can just seem to cave in on you and starting all over seems to be a huge endeavor. Make some positive changes, and try to develop some good habits that will make you feel better about yourself. For example, get a hair cut, exercise a little to lift your mood, make a list of job skills and positive qualities you have, then tackle the idea of getting a job.
If you have a degree you must have a chosen career that you can pursue. Write a resume, and begin to look for businesses where you could work. Go to a few interviews, at places you don't even want to work, just for practice, then make appointments at places you think might need your skills. After you have a job, save money for a couple of months so that you can rent an apartment and become more independent.
2007-12-27 18:25:12 · answer #2 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Move out as soon as you get a job. You need to live on your own for your own self-esteem, because you sound ashamed that you live with your father at age 29. Figure out what you want to do with your life, because you only live once. Does this job require a degree? If so, go and get your degree. Your life is not something to take lightly. What do you enjoy doing, what are you passionate about? Take a career test to see what areas fit your personality. Good luck, and cheer up! Your life is in your own hands, it is just up to you to mold it.
2007-12-27 18:17:26 · answer #3 · answered by mrr86 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is sad that you feel sad but you need to recover first. Be strong in a few months and decide then what to do. Who knows a new man will come to rescue you . Don't hide for too long and let love be free . If love is locked in a box it will die. We all wear some kind of a mask . I would say you had severe mental illness and all it means to me is you are a good person. Don't be bad now just learn the secrets. I have been there and I know god saved me.
2007-12-27 18:30:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not able to give you a whole lot of help being i don't truely know you. i would say do your best to pick yourself up and apply for jobs that apply to your current degree. hopefully when you start working you'll be surrounded by your co-workers and be able to talk to them. being around other people like yourself is always a plus and a stepping stone to being happy. by getting a job you will hopefully soon get back on your feet and be able to move out (if that's what you want) which will give you more space in your personal life and hopefully open some doors to a new love life... i'm only trying to help but it's best to try and pick up the pieces and start wherever you can.. hope this helps =]
2007-12-27 18:22:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
O.K., FIRST THING'S FIRST. WHAT DID YOU GET YOUR DEGREE IN, AND WERE YOU HAPPY WORKING IN THE FIELD YOU WERE IN BEFORE ALL OF THE CRAP STARTED? SECOND, WAS/IS THE NATURE OF YOUR ILLNESS DEBILITATING, OR WAS IT TEMPORARY? NEXT, YOU ARE PROBABLY BETTER OFF W/OUT THE EXTRA BURDON OF A RELATIONSHIP AT THE MOMENT. I AM SO NOT BEING CONDESCENDING WHEN I SAY THAT YOU SHOULD EMBRACE AND APPRECIATE THE OPPORTUNITY TO STOP AND WEIGH YOUR FUTURE OPTIONS THANKS TO YOUR DAD'S GENEROSITY. HONEY, YOU ARE ONLY 29! TAKE THIS TIME AND GET TO KNOW YOURSELF. YOU DON'T NEED A NEW LIFE, YOU JUST NEED TIME TO FIND YOUR TRUE PASSION. YOUR FATHER IS GIVING YOU THAT CHANCE, TAKE IT! I'M 35 AND I STILL DON'T KNOW WHAT I WANT TO DO FOR A LIVING! IF YOU REALLY FEEL BAD ABOUT NOT PAYING RENT, GO GET A SIMPLE RETAIL JOB THAT WILL ALLOW YOU TO HELP DAD OUT AND STILL ALLOW YOU THE TIME YOU NEED TO FIGURE THINGS OUT. AND FINALLY, AND MOST IMPORTANTLY, PRAY.
2007-12-27 18:44:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO out and get a job even if it is not in your field .You are so young and can do whatever you want.Why get another degree because I think this is a cop out,you need to get back out there.so what you have had a lot of things happen .Live at home until you get finically stable and just do it. Quit using excuses.I feel your need for a good push to get started ,so please go for it .The longer you wait the harder it gets and you slowly loose confidence in your self.Please believe me you got it going on girl.
2007-12-27 18:30:59 · answer #7 · answered by Tinkerbell 1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only 29, you have a long life ahead of you. Take some time and think what will make you happy and go for it.
2007-12-27 18:18:01 · answer #8 · answered by Xytes6116 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I'd get another degree, then get a new job and move on
2007-12-27 18:33:26 · answer #9 · answered by Jason 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job and find new boyfriend. Get a makeover change your clothes style. Let people see after you big trauma bounce back from it in style.
2007-12-27 18:28:49 · answer #10 · answered by married & still inlove 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋