So, I just HAD to ask, why does it seem like the only black guys that are "into" me (and by 'into me' I mean obviously really want to have sex with me) are thugs and ghetto dudes..Its so irritating because I love the way black guys look, im def attracted to them, but Ive never dated one..only white guys, which is fine because u cant really help who u like at the time, and I dnt regret any of my previous relationships, but I just wanna know..damn..where are all the black guys that ARenT thugs and why dont they like me?
>< the black guys I like..
love white girls..
of course..
:(
which wouldnt bother me if I didnt have to fight the thuggy guys off while Im chasing after the black guys chasing after them..
if that makes sense..
lol..
so I guess I just wanna know Where Do I Need To Go To Meet Some Good Black Guys that like Black Girls?
2007-12-27 17:50:37 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
lol
we're in the same boat! The black guys I like...like white girls lmao!!!
honestly Im with a latino dude right now..its nice...but when we go our seperate ways Im going to pursue the guys that are into me that im into, regardless of color..if the blacks guys that im into aren't into me..then later for them. Im a gorgeous lil thing lol and im not going to waste lol!!!!
2007-12-27 17:59:29 · answer #1 · answered by Mizpurfeckt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Haha, well join the club my friend. I am going to start college soon for the same reason as you. I am Black too, in case you were wondering. The same thing happens to me a lot, and well I have learned that if you cant be with one race, just move on to another. If you want only a Black girl, then keep searching. Like the girls on this question, there are girls who like the nerd type of guy. There are girls out there for us, I have found mine, now its your turn. She might not be Black, but at least I have someone that likes me (I think lol)
2016-05-27 10:00:50 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK the guy above me has it correct I grew up in a white suburabn area I am 19, i dont seem to fit in my own peple because acording to them I am two "white" this makes me feel uncomfortable sometimes approaching black girls because some of them can be very brutal but please If Me as a non thug or ghetto black guy approached you break it to me gently
and the guy untop has it right I do have alot more white friends than black friends. I am willing to date anyone who has a positive attitude and has a nice smile , loves the oldies i like franks sinatara and james brown. If you want to get to know me a little bit better why not message me
2007-12-28 10:14:05 · answer #3 · answered by dean 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all routes back to where you are looking. Unfortunately alot of black guys embrace the thug lifestyle. I never understood this. I think in many ways that rap and hip-hop is poisonous to the African American community. Even at the college where I go, which is supposed to be an institute of higher education, young black men act as though they are auditioning to be an extra for a rap video. you just have to be overly meticulous. It may take a while, but it will be worth it.
2007-12-29 04:24:15 · answer #4 · answered by Seamus 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are some good ones out there. You just have to be patient. I guess you might be looking in the wrong place. I'm not like most of the black guys you talk about, I'm mostly the opposite. Probably your best place to look is at chruch. (One that is really there for Him) Good luck on your search. Don't give up.
2007-12-27 18:01:45 · answer #5 · answered by Burnin-Baller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on where you are looking...if you're looking for a good guy with moral character with ambition...try looking around at libraries, social activity clubs and stuff like that...you're bound to find a great guy...don't know if he'll be black, though. Just be grateful to find a good guy period...there's not that many out there....good luck!
2007-12-27 17:54:45 · answer #6 · answered by krazygurlygirl 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Why would you chase guys???
Be patient and wait. The one who is right for you will show one day sooner or later.
2007-12-27 17:56:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The majority of them are thugs or at least pretend to be. You are better off finding a white guy.
2007-12-27 17:53:59 · answer #8 · answered by baby ostrich head face 3 · 3⤊ 5⤋
You know, ive been down that road before. I cant explain why, but ive always had a thing for lightskinneded black girls around my complexion that act really eh... "white" for lack of a better term. The problem is, most of these girls who i'd describe as mainly "rocker" or "preppy" stylistically speaking, have all openly been into white/ non black guys, a number of them telling me, or hithat they arent into "thugs", "gangsters", or any other kind of hood rats, which over time i have come to realise usually means that if youre black, or even partially black, 9/10 times your out of luck.
Anyway, as far as your case is concerned, i know for a fact that most black men dont have a set "type" that they stick too, myself especially, at least when it comes to race. It might seem that they date all white women, or all black women, or all spanish women etc., but you have to stop and look at their surroundings. Like anyone else, most of us will date whoever we see fit out of whose around us, and socialise based on who we mesh with the easiest. If a man lives in the hood, he's probably going to end up with hood girls, and the one i grew up in was all black, with a few spanish girls who thought they were black and a few white girls who thought they were both spanish and black lol. I first dated a non-hood caucasian girl just before i turned 18 a few months after i began my conversion from "hood" to "other," after i began to get in touch with the quarter white in my blood i guess lol. This was due mainly to the fact that by changing my speech and appearance to a different, and more what they would call a"white" style, i basically handed over the possibility of ever being with another girl from that neighbourhood, or black ones at least, so i went after the girls that i considered "available" or the most accessible etc, in terms of walking up to them in public and not feel like they think im wack because i dress like a white person sometimes.
My point is, from your description this guy most likely would be considered "whiter" as black people come, (as far as alot of black people these days are considered unfortunately). That typically means that, in my experiences at least, he probably doesnt feel very accepted in the black community anymore than he would in the asian community. His friends are probably mostly white, and his social circles too, and being around "hood" people probably takes him out of his comfort zone at least mentally, because even now, ill dress like i did before and get g'd up on a day that im going to the barber shop, or going to be around alot of my people, because i feel almost like a sell out or traitor to my race for doing me, and not what everyone in the hood is doing. Now, im not saying he's me, or shares the same feeling to the tee, but from first glance you probably took him out of his comfort zone, because alot of sistas can be quite brutal, and judgemental, and outspokenly so. Since there are so few black females that i know at least, that arent a part of "mainstream" black culture, dont get me wrong, black is always beautiful, but im talking about the gangster wannabe aspect of it promoted in alot of black media today, (a black girl dating a white guy was unheard of to me until i went to college because of such media, and the unspoken rules of the general black community where i lived most of my life.
So if he's afraid that youre going to judge him and such if he approaches you on that basis, he wont feel comfortable talking to you until he realizes that in a way youre like him, which I find very attractive personally. Alot of guys like him, though were all different, often dont like hood/ hood acting girls either, so its up to you to show him that youre not.
On the other hand, dont judge a "Thug" by his exterior as i always say. Not all people that look like thugs are thugs or even act like thugs. Alot of them are just being themselves and like me were raised in neighborhoods where you dress a certain way. Im probably a wierd case but i dressed like one all the time 2 years ago, and i still do occaisionally, although i adopted a "whiter" style than normal because i feel it is more expressive of my slightly mixed heritage.I know for a fact that there are at least a few guys that dress like their from the hood, but are very personable and dont speak a lick of eubonix, and are pretty great guys.
It wont be easy to find the kind of guy your looking for, because most of them are the "token" black guy, the one really white acting black guy in a group off just about all white friends. Less extreme cases are out there, but the only place ive seen an abundance of black guys that arent thug are white/ upperclass neighborhoods/ suburbs, and mostly white populated colleges and unis.
2007-12-27 19:10:04 · answer #9 · answered by Chad M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You tell me and we'll both know!!!!
2007-12-27 17:55:12 · answer #10 · answered by williamsg1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋