im 14 and my mom wont even let me talk 2 boys on the phone (but i do on my cell) but she says i cant date. All my friends have boyfriends and I dont. should i go behind her back and rick getting caught or just wait...?
2007-12-27 17:13:55 · 64 answers · asked by =)* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
boy friend is ok but no sex
2007-12-27 17:16:54 · answer #1 · answered by PRINCE 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's not worth getting caught it's just two more years, I think it's rather stupid that your mom won't let you talk to boys on the phone it's not like she can really stop you and she's just causing you to be more rebellious! It's good that your mom won't let you date though it's rather stupid to date when you're only 14, she's saving you from getting pregnant, or meeting guys that are bad, also you can't really do much when you're only 14 as well. So just wait and maybe you could convince her to let you talk to boys. Explain to her that it might make you be less rebellious if she lets you it will save her trouble! Just remember that your mom is doing her job of protecting you if she didn't it would be a bad thing just think of rules as protection for you not punishment!
2007-12-27 17:23:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in your position 2 years ago, except my parents said NO DATING TILL YOU'RE OUT OF COLLEGE.
but I did the sneaky thing
in the end, i guess there were some good points, but not worth all the crap i had to put up with once they found out (it's almost a given that they WILL find out).
depends on how much you value your parents' trust
and how much the guy means to you...
just because all your friends are allowed to have boyfriends isn't a reason (i'm sure you've heard this from your mom).
it might reassure her if she got to meet/chaperone your first few dates/outtings...so she feels like she has some control over what's happening.
over-protective mom, yeah?
two year is not a long time, not if you can still hang out with the guys you like, and just stay friends with them till you're 16.
2007-12-28 16:21:54 · answer #3 · answered by onedaymushroom 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know this isn't the answer you're looking for (I have a feeling you're looking to justify what you're asking is okay) but your mom has your best interest at heart, I promise!!!! You're soooo young...do you really think you're gonna find a guy you're gonna be with for the rest of your life right now? You've probably heard this a million times from your mom (if you have, she's a smart lady!) but you'll grow into a totally different person in the next five years, even ten years! Your priorities will change because as you grow older, you begin to think of the future alot more instead of pleasing yourself now. By then you may be in college or just starting a very promiscing career and not want to use your time "trying to find a man" and instead secure a place in the world for yourself...Give yourself some time...I swear to you, when you're older, you'll be glad you used your childhood to be a child!
2007-12-27 17:19:49 · answer #4 · answered by krazygurlygirl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you could talk to your mom into going on a group date, where there would be several people going. Or if there's a guy that is interested in you (and vice versa!) maybe he can come over and watch a movie or something. I wouldn't go behind her back because then you might be even more protected. When my daughter gets older, I would say she can date when she's a freshman in high school, but I'd want to know where she's going and all that. GOod luck!
2007-12-27 17:18:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay. Parents made these dumb rules at the beginning of time. My parents (especially my dad) don't even want me to have guy friends. Lol. Every time I mention a boy in a conversation, I have to tell my mom that he's gay, just so that I can hang out with him. Going behind your mom's back is not the best thing to do, but if you really want a boyfriend, that's up to you.
2007-12-27 17:18:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey hun,
i had the same thing...couldnt date til i was 16!! but trust me you will have plenty time to do it. really the boys you have to date are not mature enough yet!! promise.... heres what you should do...watch all of your friends relationships and their downfalls! you'll realize that the boys and girls breakup over stupid reasons and you do not want to be at the end of a heartache...find out what you really want in a guy and dont settle! boys dont really get better until about their jr. year in highschool and they still have their stupidity!
Just because you dont have one doesnt mean your anyless of a girl or person!! dont get caught in the peer pressure! jsut wait and be happy with who you becuase as great as relationships seem...they are really alot of work!
your mom is smart and knows what is best trust her..i think you can talk on the phone with boys but just wait you will be better for it! and one day when you have a daughter you will know more and do the same thing to protect her!! i understand that now!!
good luck...obey your mom!!
2007-12-27 17:21:31 · answer #7 · answered by melanie b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could go behind her back if you want. Waiting may seem like the right thing to do, but if you are good at keeping secrets, go ahead. I think my parents have a similar rule, but I haven't ever had a bf and I'm 14 too. Just go ahead, your parents can't really decide when you are mature enough to date. It varies from person to person. Then if your parents find out, you could talk it over with them. Then they usually understand when they see that you are mature enough.
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2007-12-27 17:18:31 · answer #8 · answered by ☺♫Ellie♫☺ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you go behind your mother's back on anything, you will get caught (moms have eyes in the backs of their heads, don't you know) and it will go hard on you.
As long as your parents are legally responsible for you, they have a huge say about what you do.
That said, work with her on it. There will be a way that you can demonstrate you're responsible. That will encourage her to trust you so that when she does let you date, you'll be free of a lot of restrictions.
2007-12-27 17:18:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read the book called "I kissed dating good-bye". It's a really great book. I was single when I was 40, and I wish I had read it years before. It would have saved me a lot of grief and heart ache. You have much better ways to spend your time than worrying about calling and dating guys at your age. Don't go behind your mom's back. Any guy who wants you to do that, may want you to do other things behind your mom's back. Any guy who encourages you to lie to anyone, especially parents, is NOT WORTH IT.
2007-12-27 17:21:12 · answer #10 · answered by kgal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really is no reason for having a boyfriend at the age of 14, you cant drive to go anywhere, so whats really the point?? You didn't mention if your religious, but that may play a role in your mothers decision. Good Luck
2007-12-27 17:17:56 · answer #11 · answered by wiltse16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋